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Harping on people to get married from up in the ivory tower fails to engage with reality of life in the dating trenches.

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[–] [email protected] 13 points 1 year ago (5 children)

It'll stop once it stops being a problem. FTA:

He had recently read about a high school creative writing assignment in which boys and girls were asked to imagine a day from the perspective of the opposite sex. While girls wrote detailed essays showing they had already spent significant time thinking about the subject, many boys simply refused to do the exercise or did so resentfully.

I mean, we're not just talking about the ability to communicate (which is important), but the basic ability to empathize. If men (in general) are unwilling to even consider the female point of view, is it any wonder why women have a difficult time dating? This isn't happening in a vacuum; there are real reasons why this is happening.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) (1 children)

Boys refusing to do an exercise about imagining a day as the other gender represents a social problem, not a men problem. High school boys who refuse to imagine themselves as someone else were taught to be resistant to that idea, and not only by men but society as a whole.

[–] zarathustra0 16 points 1 year ago

Think of the structural issues which have caused this to be the case. Blaming men for not achieving an externally defined target isn't going to help anyone.

Hate the game, not the player.

[–] Surp 11 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You couldn't be more in your own echo chamber. If other men are telling you woman also act the same way as some men and also have issues and you refuse to see another position or point of view you are the problem.

[–] AtmaJnana 1 points 10 months ago

You take one cherry-picked anecdote and then generalize that to the entire population. You are the problem.