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Rally's comment is generally good advice, and doesn't place blame on anyone.
It's in response to a girl getting punished for being recorded doing nothing wrong. Read the room and the context. It absolutely is victim blaming.
It's just advice for my kids that I shared. It may be good or bad advice based on your opinions and experiences. Take it, or leave it. But how do you jump to victim blaming?
Because of the context of the post you left that comment on?
Come on dude, you managed to put pants on today right? We know you arent as stupid as youre trying to pretend you are.
Lol… wow. The advice from rally is sound and totally correct. You took it the wrong way and thought he was saying it was her fault. He is saying don’t even put yourself in that situation by being filmed if you can avoid it. If you do not understand that then you’re truly lost. Also, im blocking you because Im sure you’ll misunderstand this too.
If youre blocking me, be a big kid and do it. No one cares to hear it.
But if youre as dumb as rally is pretending to be, Id be surprised if you figure out how.
I have read the room. The victim is not here. OP got the article from a news source.
THUS... we don't need to worry about hurting her feelings. How else CAN we contribute? Well, one constructive way is to share advice for how to prevent this. It's a good practice to not do or say things unless you're comfortable being recorded.
I agree her punishment is inappropriate, but I don't control that high school. All I control is whether I do things I don't want recorded or not.
How about if we rephrase it as "don't do things that someone else can victimize you for." Can you see how there can be a correlation with victim blaming?
The contextual difference here is that the woman in question was dancing at a private party. That is something that's okay to be comfortable with, even if a friend is recording. Thus, the problem here isn't that she shouldn't have done that, but that others victimized her over it.
That's why Rally's advice is getting criticized. It's getting correlated with "don't do things you enjoy in private with your friends because someone terrible might do terrible things to you." This is genuinely terrible advice.
Agreed. If you read this story and your first thought is 'she shouldn't have been dancing on camera in the first place', that's victim blaming.
I never thought that or said that. You made a large jump there. All I did was to share guidence i provided to my family. It's not my place to blame anyone here.
Alright
But you did place blame. Are you really that fucking daft?
He at least thinks we are
I guess we can disagree. There was no blame, only the advice I gave to my family.