It used to be slapped/pinched butts and generally forced servitude.

I get what you're saying here, but these statements really minimize the issue.

If a non-white person came here with a concern about hostility in spaces on Lemmy, I sincerely hope the response would not be as dismissive as "yeah, it's always been a problem. That's just how it is. Used to be slavery and slurs. You have it so easy on the internet compared to those days!" Not saying it's a one-to-one comparison to your statement, but it's an issue that someone doesn't feel safe talking about their unique experiences in a space that touts itself as progressive.

I see trans folks come here and have been accommodated fantasticly in nearly all communities! It's so wonderful to see! And I love seeing them talk about issues that often stem from cis folk who simply don't understand their struggles. Hell, I do not weigh-in opinions in trans communities (other than to give support) because I am not trans, and I do not feel I have the right to insert myself into those discussions.

As far as "be the change you want to see", I absolutely understand that many folks have the view of "if you don't have the intention to change things, then stop complaining", and I get it. I do. But I want to complain in order, at the very least, get this issue noticed.

I understand that I cannot expect others to facilitate change for me, but, as stated before, I am not a person who is mentally strong enough to do so. My wish is for someone with stronger mental fortitude to take the issue seriously and help where I am unable to do so. That's my wish.