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The fact there's nothing I can't do to hurt him or his reputation in any way pisses me off.

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[–] 11111one11111 29 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Am i crazy to think the most efficient way to handle this is to just disengage? Why report it when the outcome of reporting the person is limited by their ability to respond appropriately to social variables that are directed to them?

Let's assume youtube has a perfect response platform for these scenarios. They take all the appropriate actions in the most pefect timely manor. At what point in this scenario do you see a positive outcome from this? Is it more likely the offender gets banned from YouTube and never returns to the social media ether at any level? Or is it more likely the offender has his 250,000 cronies take their side and they use your, albeit justified, response as a reason to rally the troops in a counter attack against YouTube or god forbid you, yourself.

Noone who has 250,000 people in their corner is going to take any action against their image laying down.

It sucks ass but the right move is to be the bigger person and just leave it all at face value which absolutely nothing.

Someone once told me not to let myself get worked up over anything I won't remember in 3 years. Test it out. How many exact scenarios can you remember from 3 years ago where you were stressed out and still get stressed when you think back on it? 4 maybe 5 scenarios at most? Will this be something if you dropped it today, that will haunt you 3 more years from now?

[–] [email protected] -2 points 1 month ago (1 children)

I still remember the insults and bullying from 20 years ago.

[–] 11111one11111 11 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

If you are 30 to 40 years old and something like being bullied 20 yeardon't still stresses you out then it might be something you should find a shrink to help you with because at 30 or 40 years old you should have enough emotional intelligence at this point in life to not be so affected by this like you are. Not being a dick just speaking from the experience of working on my own emotional intelligence and being in that 30-40 year old age range. There is a lot to say about getting help from a shrink but honestly it mostly comes from people who should prolly be seeing a shrink themselves but dont.

With that being said i do want to point out that my original 3 year anecdote requires you to get stressed out over the memories. Meaning there is a difference between remembering something stressfull from 3 years ago and being stressed by something you remember from 3 years ago. Sorry if I explained that poorly in my first comment.