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I feel this so hard. My grandma and my mom are both gone 5 years now, and we just lost my MIL last month. Hubby's family is going to get together same as always, but I know it just won't be the same and wonder how long they'll keep it up.
We've no kids of our own, and I've tried starting a new tradition for just us here and there, but he's always had pretty bad holiday anxiety so he's kind of hard to get into the spirit.
I can't bring myself to even put a tree up anymore.
I'm hoping I have not too many more numb years ahead and will find a jolly group with young blood and young at heart that we can glom onto.
I don't doubt that you'll find a path to a good Christmas, most people do. It isn't like we're unique in having to transition to a new way of things as the older generation leaves us. That numbness might take longer to fade, but if we stay open to the new, it can.
As a point towards that, Thanksgiving at least has turned into a new tradition for us. My best friend hosts, and it's all about togetherness.
I keep hoping something will stick for Christmas. Maybe as our kid reaches adulthood, something will form up, that's what I'm holding onto to keep the current grinchness at bay.