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What do women look for in porn? What would make it arousing?
As a woman, mutual enjoyment. Like it needs to look like they’re actually having fun. And that goes extra for stuff like bdsm porn where there’s been enough monstrous shit that got by (honestly I really don’t consume bdsm porn much outside of places where I feel it’s safe to assume mutual enjoyment because of this despite being very into it irl).
Also on the lesbian porn part, I want to see women that look and act like they’re actually having lesbian sex. Like, a woman who doesn’t skip arm day, being playful then doing some muff diving.
I mostly read my porn for a reason.
ETA: also the misogyny in a lot of porn is a massive turn off. Especially because it’s often unprompted.
It kind of feels this sort of media exists, but isn't really considered porn. I mean, the books are a great example. It's probably way easier to leave picturing relationships to imagination than to actors. Would Netflix adaptation of Bridgertons count?
Is there muff diving in it? I get what you’re saying but I want the emotions and to watch two people fucking. If you’ve seen season 2 of arcane there’s a scene that was very nice and if it kept going from the “tv sex scene” and into the pornographic it would’ve been excellent. I’ve also seen some avant garde feminist porn from like the 70s that involved actresses directing and everyone on set being naked to ensure nobody was more vulnerable than anyone else and it was pretty hot.
And yeah I do love some good pornographic literature. It allows for a scene to be set effectively and with a good writer it’s not much worse than had it been video. Like sure I’d love to see people doing it, but ok cliterature is far better than ok video