I'm sorry but when I read "pride month is defeated" in the context of a heterosexual engagement my mind immediately assumes the dude is a closeted homosexual who chose her as his beard instead of coming out. And this is how he "defeated pride". By choosing a heteronormative lifestyle over his actual preferences.

The most optimistic scenario my head can come up with to make the sentence make sense would be that she's bisexual and because of him she chose to commit to a heteronormative relationship.

In any way, for a lack of a better term, putting your engagement in context of defeating pride makes you look quite gay.

[–] Buddahriffic 33 points 4 days ago (1 children)

I think the same about anyone who fears LGBT+ trying to convert their kids like they believe someone can be convinced to be gay rather than just convinced to accept their sexuality.

Like I don't see any problem with being gay but it's not for me. I sometimes think dating would be easier if I was bi, but it's about as appealing as knowing it would be easier to fill my stomach if I ate sawdust.

So it's very telling when someone talks about gays tempting them or that they worry about a gay agenda of turning everyone gay like it's a realistic possibility.

[–] Drivebyhaiku 4 points 4 days ago

A lot of the fear of "conversion" really feels like parents getting ornery because someone might "damage their property" by telling them that being gay is perfectly fine. They want to have the whole heterosexual experience they had but lived vicariously all over again through someone they can pilot through life like a little low maintenance automoton. They want to narrow the field of choices to the ones they want.

You see it expressed all over the place. If you choose not to want kids or marry, pick a career they don't understand or would pick for themselves they tighten the thumbscrews. So often they don't love their kids they just love what they represent... Genetic legacy or bragging rights or a vehicle for constant validation. Being LGBTQIA+ is a threat because that represents paths that they would not have chosen. They can't empathize or desire it...

But estrangement has always been a thing. Kids always become adults and adults always have choices.. but we never forget what it was like to be a kid without autonomy. One day that kid is going to be able to make their own choices and there's not a thing their parent can do about it. I love and value my parents because they always treated me like my own person. I always consider their advice seriously and give them a high priority. Fillial piety is no burden when it feels like returning the support and love. It never sits uneasy. I know a lot of people who struggle because they are biologically programmed to have a bond but they just can't because the choices their parents made amd continue to attempt to make for them has left lasting damage.

[–] chiliedogg 32 points 5 days ago

Those who hate homosexuals and see them as the "other side" often believe that homosexuals view heterosexuals with the same malice.

Gay people know they're not the norm, and don't feel threatened by straight folk unless. They feel threatened by bigots.

[–] Snapz 21 points 5 days ago

100%

NOT TODAY NATURAL URGES FOR FIRM MAN CHESTS!!!

[–] Psythik 18 points 5 days ago* (last edited 5 days ago)

Yeah I seriously I was about to say, as a pansexual, this guy is triggering every sensor on my gaydar, big time. He'd be a lot happier if he would just embrace who he is.

[–] captainlezbian 13 points 4 days ago

Yeah either of those scenarios makes me think one of them is eventually turning back to gay sex. Sure bisexuals can have lifelong monogamous relationships with people of a different gender and they often do it happily, but how happily do they tend to do it with people bragging about how they defeated their partner’s queerness?

[–] [email protected] 8 points 5 days ago (1 children)

The most optimistic scenario my head can come up with to make the sentence make sense would be that she's bisexual and because of him she chose to commit to a heteronormative relationship.

If that was the case she should be pissed that this was his reflection

[–] xantoxis 25 points 5 days ago (1 children)

She should be pissed in any scenario. You propose to your partner, you post a photo, and then you put ANYTHING other than I LOVE MY FIANCEE in your post? That sucks, dude.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 4 days ago

Unless your fiancee is also a homophobic bigot as a central component to her personality, then she's probably OK with it.