this post was submitted on 01 Jun 2024
26 points (93.3% liked)
Casual Conversation
2354 readers
252 users here now
Share a story, ask a question, or start a conversation about (almost) anything you desire. Maybe you'll make some friends in the process.
RULES (updated 01/22/25)
- Be respectful: no harassment, hate speech, bigotry, and/or trolling. To be concise, disrespect is defined by escalation.
- Encourage conversation in your OP. This means including heavily implicative subject matter when you can and also engaging in your thread when possible. You won't be punished for trying.
- Avoid controversial topics (politics or societal debates come to mind, though we are not saying not to talk about anything that resembles these). There's a guide in the protocol book offered as a mod model that can be used for that; it's vague until you realize it was made for things like the rule in question. At least four purple answers must apply to a "controversial" message for it to be allowed.
- Keep it clean and SFW: No illegal content or anything gross and inappropriate. A rule of thumb is if a recording of a conversation put on another platform would get someone a COPPA violation response, that exact exchange should be avoided when possible.
- No solicitation such as ads, promotional content, spam, surveys etc. The chart redirected to above applies to spam material as well, which is one of the reasons its wording is vague, as it applies to a few things. Again, a "spammy" message must be applicable to four purple answers before it's allowed.
- Respect privacy as well as truth: Don’t ask for or share any personal information or slander anyone. A rule of thumb is if something is enough info to go by that it "would be a copyright violation if the info was art" as another group put it, or that it alone can be used to narrow someone down to 150 physical humans (Dunbar's Number) or less, it's considered an excess breach of privacy. Slander is defined by intentional utilitarian misguidance at the expense (positive or negative) of a sentient entity. This often links back to or mixes with rule one, which implies, for example, that even something that is true can still amount to what slander is trying to achieve, and that will be looked down upon.
Casual conversation communities:
Related discussion-focused communities
founded 2 years ago
MODERATORS
you are viewing a single comment's thread
view the rest of the comments
view the rest of the comments
Maybe you're more introverted and tend towards learning in an autodidactic way?
Not being like all the other people isn't necessarily a bad thing. Yes, it's difficult to be different. But we should embrace being human and diverse. Everyone learns at their own pace. Some people learn better by watching and imitating, some people like to understand things down to the core and can't just "do this and do that and you're done." And there are different learning styles anyways: Auditory, Visual, Tactile, ...
I just wanted to say you're not alone with that. I also regularly fail to remember dancing steps, when someone shows me how to assemble furniture or do some task. I can't for the life of me remember driving directions. I'd much rather get handed an instruction manual and I can read it at my own pace. Everytime I get what I need and what matches my learning type, I can excel at things, so it's not a lack of intelligence.
And it works, too if you're taught 1 on 1. So you can ask your "instructor" to slow down or speed up things you already know. It's just difficult in group scenarios. And I don't think there is a way around speaking up and letting them show it to you once more. But I think most people should theoretically be able to relate. Other people struggled in maths in school and had things explained to them over and over again, which was super boring to me. But we all grasp different concepts in different amounts of time and we sometimes need to be taught in the way that is right for us individually.
And a last word to climbing: Getting it almost immediately isn't the important part of the knot. The important part is that you never fail to do it correct in the years to come. Where I learned climbing they hand you a scrap piece of old rope and you can practice at home. And the week after you need to demonstrate that you're able to do the knot and check it for correctness. I've been with the (boy) scouts for years, so I could already tie the knot perfectly.
(Edit: "Learning style theories have been criticized by many scholars and researchers. Some psychologists and neuroscientists have questioned the scientific basis for separating out students based on learning style. [...] Many educational psychologists have shown that there is little evidence for the efficacy of most learning style models, and furthermore, that the models often rest on dubious theoretical grounds." Source: Wikipedia)
Learning styles are educational astrology. They have no basis in science or paedagogy.
Thanks for enlighting me. I have to fact check this, but occasionally I also consume what they tell in random business coaching without questioning it.
Edit: Fact checked. And learned something today. Thx.
Building on your last point, it could be that others were also already somewhat familiar. Perhaps those learning to scuba dive with OP have experience swimming to the bottom of a pool or have gone snorkeling. It's unlikely that people would go out of their ways to bring that up to the entire group.
Just remember that people who never fail also do not know what to do in the case of a mishap.