[Outdated, please look at pinned post] Casual Conversation

Hey lemmy, I just want to share that I'm getting a new job!

I'm located in East Asia, in a country that is not really recognized as a country (easy guess isn't it?). But I'm actually from South East Asia.

So after getting a bachelor's degree in mechE, I work in a local manufacturing company, supplying the Auto industry. The company's making pretty good money and probably has a pretty bright future, but the management and mindset is so...Asian.

Cheap. Everyone works overtime, managers get verbally abusive at times. Our laptops are old enough to go to middle or high school. The ERP (enterprise resource planning) software has 5s+ lag every page refresh, and is limited to 40 users at a time (for 150+ employees at the office).

I'm making about +45% national minimum wage, which is not bad, but considering that I'm their best English speaker, I work 1 hour more everyday (without pay) , taking over technical meetings with customers (other engineers don't really speak English), it's pretty low.

Then, about 2 years in, I started to look for a new job, but as usual, it's hard and involves a lot of ghosting.

Then I saw a chat in Linkedin, from a headhunter offering 60% more base pay for the same job title as my current job! I knew I'm being underpaid, but I didn't think it was by that much.

I was looking for a full engineering role though, so I ignored that HH, but then another HH approached me and I did several interviews, and BAM! They want to give me an offer, and it was almost 85% more than my current. AND it's 20% more than what I asked them! Maybe I have a habit to undervalue myself, and this company refuses to use that against me.

So I told my manager I'm quitting, he was calm and collected, but I can see a little bit of shock. He said he's "confident that he can give me a 30% raise", and I had to refuse him three times in that conversation. I was so nervous that I barely can form proper sentences, especially that we're conversing in my 3rd language. My colleagues have been very nice to me, and very appreciative, but not the company. Honestly, I was also heartbroken to leave.

So I'll start in a couple months, will have to relocate to another city 300km away, I'll have to find a new place to rent. Will have to adapt to a new city and build a whole new routine. I'll travel a lot on weekends because my GF still lives in my current city.

I'm excited about all the possibilities, and anxious about the expectations.

And speaking of expectation, the head of a department in the new company will travel from Europe HQ for 2 weeks to orient me, a buddy also will also be temporarily relocated to accompany me later on, for a longer period. Is this even the norm in big international companies? Is this a European thing? Excited but I'm starting to fear the extent of their expectation.

And I'm super worried if this doesn't work out. My exit from the current company hasn't finalized yet, and I haven't signed a new rent. I will have to get a new work permit as well...

Anyway, it's interesting how a path opened up for me in a bizarre way. Like, I wasn't seeking them out and except for my preparation for the interviews, it felt almost "easy" (the feeling is most probably biased because the effort was in the past and now I'm looking at the result).

So... a new journey ahead, and I hope it works out well for those who's struggling right now.

That's all folks! Have a great day y'all!

I just want to vent a bit - I started seeing someone a few weeks ago. Old fling that I ran into through some friends that got rekindled, and I was excited that it seemed like more than just casual hookups this time. But there were some yellow flags I ignored that turned out to be red flags, and now I'm feeling frustrated and hurt.

Dude for real dropped the line that men are more "capable" and "logical" on me. That gender studies are "indoctrination." I told him we should probably stop seeing each other if that's really what he thinks. It wouldn't be logical for me to keep seeing someone that thinks lesser of me, now, would it?

I'm grateful to have some guy friends that I turned to after I left, cuz I wanted to go into "fuck all men" mode, but I know it's not true or helpful. Just like there are women out there that have internalized misogyny, there's feminist men, enbies, etc. We're all just people and we're not monoliths beholden to differences in biology. This is just sexist, manosphere bullshit in particular

Anyway. I'm still feeling angry and wanted to put it out there for some support and solidarity. Anyone have a recent win they'd like to share or something?

ETA: Thank you so much for the conversation y'all! I've been trying to keep up but I gotta get some sleep. I'll check in later but hope everyone has a good day. Keep up the empowerment! 💜

So im a crane technician, glorified diesel mechanic in Australia.

And i have flown arouns the country to get to a shitty little place called whyalla. Took me 4 flights to get here darwin to alice, alice to Melbourne, Melbourne to Adelaide. Missed my connection. Then the next day Adelaide to whyalla.

I have no idea whays the cause of the fault on the crane and currently no real idea on my next steps. But its 2000 and im in some shit restaurant at my accommodation and ive been here half an hour trying to get a feed so i can go to bed and do another 13 houra tomorrow. Because i want to go home Monday.

It could be a small surge but something where you noticed a sudden influx of people. Maybe a game you were playing that got quite popular after it was streamed or there was free weekend on Steam.

For example during the quarantine and around the time when the used console market got prohibitively expensive handheld emulators like the RG350 and much later the Miyoo Mini got quite popular. This was partially due to more people at home wanting to play their favorite classics but also them being promoted as "fake" GameBoys and PSPs on TikTok.

I have no intentions of setting up anything serious, but I would like to occasionally talk to someone random, and although so far I haven't tried any app or website, I'm sure 99% of them will be complete garbage, full of micropayments and stupid limitations, well, practically like any app nowadays.

Does anyone know any app or website for this?

I work in tech. At my previous job, I started organizing a union and got maybe 20 people out of 70 involved in actively planning and being interested. But I left my old job for this one, because I could be paid more with less work. And now there's a new job on the horizon which promises another 10-20k a year, and again, the call of more money outweighs the urge to improve the current situation. Anyone else ever dealt with this issue?

I just wanna get to know people and maybe make a few friends. I've tried a bunch of servers over the years, both general and specific ones but it never really worked out I guess? (I'm a pretty awkward person to talk to, maybe that's why^^)

I've been working in construction for the past 11 years at this point with a few years before that in a part time role. I'm more than happy to lend whatever knowledge or insights I may have about work, life, or whatever.

I will be checking in sporadically to see if there are questions.

EDITED WELL AFTER QUESTIONS STOPPED: I'm still active-ish on Lemmy, so if you happen to find this and have a question, I will likely still get back to you.

We have a holiday tomorrow and I was wondering because I am indecisive this year.

I cannot keep my job. Firstly because I'm on FMLA (unpaid medical leave) for a mystery illness and I cannot guarantee that, even if finally diagnosed, I will be recovered by the 12 week maximum allotted.

Secondly because we've put our daughter in online school due to severe bullying. The program she's in now is awful and I have to help her through her English lessons (she's in 7th grade and they're having her read 18th century texts). We're switching her to a new program next semester which requires a parent to be a full-time "learning coach" for their kid to keep them on track.

It's a terrible job. I absolutely hate it. The pay is low, the job is boring, my co-workers don't really care about my existence, and my bosses are friendly but unreasonable. The only thing I like is that I have a hybrid schedule where I can work from home for 18 hours a week. But spending the other 22 hours in the office sucks. I spend the whole time wearing noise-cancelling headphones just to get through the time there. I've wanted to leave this job for a good year now although I admit I wasn't trying very hard to find another one.

But I just can't bring myself to resign. I don't know why. Something is stopping me like it's the wrong thing to do. I know I will be happier even though we will be on a single income, I am doing the right thing for my daughter, and I have no idea when this medical issue will be resolved.

I was going to write the resignation letter last Friday. Every day I mean to write it and every day I just can't do it. I know I have to do it soon. Maybe even today. But something won't let me do it. My brain is telling me I can't quit.

Thanks for reading my rant. I don't know why I wrote it. I guess I needed to let it out to someone other than my wife and my boss follows me on non-anonymous social media so I can't really talk about it there.

EDIT: I wrote the email, showed it to my wife to see what she thought and sent it. Now all I have to do is sit back and wait for a reply, but I'm shaking.

Things are going downhill far too quickly. Attention grabbing headlines and no useful content from articles rule the internet.

It makes no sense.

I cannot understand if this is due to AI, corporate greed, propaganda, or a mixture of all of the above.

I love exploring new and creative content. It brings me such great joy to learn new things.

Recently I've felt that I've been backed into a corner on every platform/service that I use and can't get out of getting the same spoon-fed content they think I'll like rather than allowing me to actually discover something fun and new.