kofe

joined 2 years ago
[–] kofe 5 points 2 days ago

I'll add that two people can experience the same trauma but only one develop PTSD. I started a lecture series on trauma a while back that started off explaining that if you find yourself starting to have symptoms, try to catch yourself and remind yourself that you're in a learning environment. That's just one method, and it can be difficult to maintain without further education and training

[–] kofe 3 points 2 days ago

Just made me realize I haven't seen any geese this year. Normally they absolutely litter the pond near my place

[–] kofe -3 points 3 days ago* (last edited 3 days ago) (5 children)

Do you have research that demonstrates this conclusively? I've taken courses in psychology of aging, lifespan development, brain & behavior, etc. None of them discussed such a claim for everyone, but it's possible I didn't pay well enough attention.

I asked ChatGPT as well, and it's disagreeing with you, for the record. There are changes and differences, but the brain is a muscle like any other that requires training. Learning new skills, solving puzzles, etc. is correlated to the maintenance and/or improvement of the organ over the lifespan.

[–] kofe -1 points 3 days ago (7 children)

Cognitive decline is not inherent to old age. It is something to look out for.

[–] kofe -4 points 3 days ago (1 children)

Just because it's what you want doesn't mean you speak for everyone. That's the point of democracy.

[–] kofe 8 points 3 days ago (2 children)

I grew up with that fear and don't think it was acceptable. I understand why others do, and I won't invalidate the feelings behind why. I live with chronic health issues that I don't have insurance or money to see a doctor for, and I desperately want change for everyone else suffering, as well. I don't think compounding that through vigilante justice is the answer. I can't change that it happened or that others sympathize with it, but I can continue to listen and advocate for systemic change moving forward where and when I can.

[–] kofe 2 points 3 days ago (13 children)

Age isn't inherently a bad thing in politics. We're a representative democracy, and older adults deserve representation reflected as equally as any other eligible voter demographic imo (which could include felons and other disenfranchised populations where possible, but that's a whole other convo).

It's disproportionately skewed due to lack of term limits, it's often safer for parties to run an incumbent, and there's benefits to having someone with the experience stay in, so idk. I don't have a ton of solutions by any means, just want to push back on the ageism and add some nuance here. Bernie's still out there doing a his job representing the demographic well

[–] kofe 8 points 4 days ago* (last edited 4 days ago)

Richard Dawkins, the esteemed biologist that coined the term "meme," suffered a stroke and started going hard on "there are only two sexes." Setting aside that gender =/= sex, how does a biologist not remember bimodal models are not clear dichotomies

[–] kofe 1 points 6 days ago (1 children)

No other animal does what we're doing here either. Weird isn't necessarily bad

[–] kofe 13 points 1 week ago

Afaik research shows efforts like this actually help diverse communities. Older adults don't benefit as much from nursing homes and the like because it denies them ability to socialize with other generations.

Plus, here in the US fuckin nothing is in walking distance for a sizable population. Older adults and infirm need areas they can walk (or scoot or whatever) without risk of being hit by cars when they take longer to cross a street. Research also shows older adults prefer getting shit done on their own when they can, so giving them ample opportunities like this is exactly what they need. They're still surrounded by people that can help if they do fall.

Cheer up mate

[–] kofe 3 points 1 week ago (1 children)

Or Yamaha Or Hitachi

 

I was rushing to get these done between school and work, but I kept each of the 5 questions under 3 minutes if y'all are curious how I interpreted them! I heard lines might be longer than usual today, so make sure you've got water and some snacks. Hope to see you at the polls!

 

Hey y'all - I'm starting a video series breaking down our statewide ballot questions since I looked last week and had no idea about some of them. I'd really appreciate any support you can give, whether it's watching, commenting, or following my channel!

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fuck the manosphere (self.casualconversation)
submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by kofe to c/casualconversation
 

I just want to vent a bit - I started seeing someone a few weeks ago. Old fling that I ran into through some friends that got rekindled, and I was excited that it seemed like more than just casual hookups this time. But there were some yellow flags I ignored that turned out to be red flags, and now I'm feeling frustrated and hurt.

Dude for real dropped the line that men are more "capable" and "logical" on me. That gender studies are "indoctrination." I told him we should probably stop seeing each other if that's really what he thinks. It wouldn't be logical for me to keep seeing someone that thinks lesser of me, now, would it?

I'm grateful to have some guy friends that I turned to after I left, cuz I wanted to go into "fuck all men" mode, but I know it's not true or helpful. Just like there are women out there that have internalized misogyny, there's feminist men, enbies, etc. We're all just people and we're not monoliths beholden to differences in biology. This is just sexist, manosphere bullshit in particular

Anyway. I'm still feeling angry and wanted to put it out there for some support and solidarity. Anyone have a recent win they'd like to share or something?

ETA: Thank you so much for the conversation y'all! I've been trying to keep up but I gotta get some sleep. I'll check in later but hope everyone has a good day. Keep up the empowerment! 💜

 

I know it's not the most engaging or thought provoking question, but I'm having a bad day and would really like to find a space to vent

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submitted 2 years ago* (last edited 2 years ago) by kofe to c/videoessays
 

I was noot prepared for this intensity

 

Hey y'all, want to give a heads up that I used redact a few days ago to delete all my comments and found the entire history restored today. I've seen a few useful tips that if you're petty enough, start editing and deleting your comments manually so it doesn't get noticed as quickly. I started by viewing my top comments and edited them to say "As a language AI model, I'm beginning to edit all my comments in protest of reddit"

I'm just going to do a little at a time and will check back in after about 12 hours or so to make sure it's not restored then keep going

Obligatory fuck spez

ETA: Thank you @deweydecibel for the explanation! If y'all are using redact, try making sure you're using the one with a 5 second delay

Edit 2: @EnigmaNL also noted the script didn't work for comments in subs that were locked down. I just finished going through mine and can confirm there weren't too many left, so I think that's what the issue was!

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familyyy (self.h3h3productions)
submitted 2 years ago by kofe to c/h3h3productions
 

I was thinking of making a community here for h3 and am glad to see ones been made! It was one of the only subreddits I'd checked this last week and now I feel so much more comfortable sticking to lemmy. Just want to say hi for now with ✌️& ❤️ Shout out to all the hoes for Hila, Olivia, Lena, and Sam!

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