Oh, agreed, it very much depends on the interlocutor. I was mainly thinking of an average phone call, but I've had people with whom I used to spend hours upon hours just chatting over the phone or, as you've said, voice chatting during work.
But that, to me, requires a high degree of familiarity, to the point where I don't need to think about what they meant when they said that in that particular way, because I already know their "tropes," so to speak.
Because he's an insecure and greedy child.
Agreed, both "mommy issues" and "daddy issues" are pretty much unofficial monikers for abandonment issues overall, which are generally caused by unstable relationships with either one or both parents.
The symptoms don't seem to be related as much to the parent's role, but to the minutiae of the relationships themselves, which can look the same in many cases whether it be an inconsistent relationship with the mother or the father.
Edit: I don't say this to minimise OP's issue, to be clear, quite the contrary - familial abandonment issues suck the soul dry overall...
Imho, the most important trait a good manager can have is humility - by this I mean they don't let that management position go to their head and realise that everyone's in the same pot, they have the capacity to admit when they're in the weeds in terms of knowledge and are not afraid to ask for clarifications or to let someone else take the wheel in specialty aspects (and not as an excuse to stay ignorant), and that they're not the most important person in the team, the entire team is.
Besides that, transparency in all things, empathy (we're all people with people stuff going on in the background), honesty, diplomacy, genuine curiosity, a capacity to see the forest for the trees, the courage to put their foot down when absolutely needed (mostly to defend the team), accountability, doesn't micromanage but instead encourages their teammates to develop both their skills and confidence in their skills.
As I see it, a management position should exist to help the team, not lead it. People usually know what they're doing (most of the time even better than the manager), so the manager should ensure that they're working on providing things which are in lesser supply within the team (eg. can function as a spokesperson, simplifies the processes in order to remove needless time sinks, can ideally act as a quasi-therapist for all things work related, keeps track of the big picture, helps structure the workload in a rational manner, etc.).
Edit: oh, and this is a personal favourite of mine, is not afraid of saying that the ship's sinking when it is. Again, working for what's best for their teammates.
Can't speak for everyone, but for me it's a clusterfuck of abstract conditions. I overthink the conversation to hell and back - maybe I'm misunderstanding what they say, maybe it cuts off repeatedly then I have to awkwardly ask my interlocutor to repeat themselves over and over again, the absence of non-verbal cues blows my interpretation gates wide open, I worry that I'll come off wrong, etc., etc. And the anticipation's just as bad, to be honest. It's, overall, very uncomfortable.
I much prefer in-person, or text. In person, I can "feel the vibe" without issues, and text allows me to think, rethink and polish my message, and I don't worry about having to clarify, because I just go back to "think, rethink and polish" with even more specifics at hand.
Phone convos (without video) are like the reverse Daywalker to me - the weaknesses of both text and in-person, with none of their strengths.
Edit: as a half-funny and half-frustrating example, about 90% of the times in which I provided my full name via phone, it ended up being butchered, a few times even in official documents (almost got stuck at Customs first time I went abroad with mum, because my actual name was nowhere to be found on the passenger manifest). This happened even when I spelt the name letter by letter.
Looks like Picasso was there.
Theere we go! Well, guess I'm a terrorist now! Nowhere near a leader of either, but we all know they'll just move "leadership" down the line if and as they whittle us down... Gotta say, this is not where I saw myself in 5 years!
Beg pardon, but it's UHssured... d'uh...
This is why it's essential, now more than ever, to keep these words and notions alive, let the truth be an act of rebellion in itself.
Life is meaningless without diversity, and it is up to each and every one of us to protect it.
Can confirm, no relation! Nor are my complete deficiency of melanin and tendency to fry within 10 minutes of direct sunlight related in any way!
I'm just a bystander asking questions, y'know?
Does this apply if I don't even know what day it is?
You're right, he's a very complex asshole, indeed!