Yeah, I don't think going on the offensive is going to help you. It's just going to alienate everyone.
I don't quite get how you still get woken by the bells if your house is isolated and you wear ear protection to bed. There must be a way to get your bedroom soundproof.
It sounds like your issue isn't just the sound of the bells. I've lived near a hospital with ambulances blaring students coming and going randomly at every hour. After a while we got used to it. Now, when I rewatch videos from back then I'm surprised to hear them, because they aren't in my memory. What I'm getting at is that your opposition to the sound, your anger, is drawing your focus. I don't think you can get used to them if they keep triggering strong emotions in you. It might be a long shot and I understand this isn't the solution you are looking for, but maybe you can get used to them eventually. Humans are really good at getting used to new conditions. You can't control your environment, but you can control your reaction to it. It sounds like some zen shit, and it is, but reducing your anger about the bells and accepting them as a new part of your life, might help you get your sleep back. There is no physical reason, why you shouldn't be able to sleep through the bells ringing. So, at least in theory, you should be able to change it by accepting it. I'm not saying it's going to be easy, but it should be possible and if you manage to do that, you will be able to handle similar issues as well.
I wonder if you can