I think that's definitely not a rebuttal (edit: we're in agreement about things): You've put a lot of thought into things and you can pretty eloquently explain exactly why you have the preferences you have.
Perhaps "attraction" was not the right word for me to use. It might be more of "what you want out of a relationship, both emotionally, and physically"...
If you weren't looking for a long term relationship, and kids weren't even in the question, these things still apply to a potential one night stand/FWB. This is more the angle I was thinking of when I say attraction.
bluffing a threat to the plane by snapchatting your friend would be a weird move. No one on the plane even knew a "threat" was made.
It seems like "we have no details at all about the threat (because it wasn't actually credible), so let's just be prepared for every situation" is the logic.