I really appreciate this comment. I was hoping that using the thin cedar pickets would have been enough to keep it light. I'm not averse to redoing the gate at some point, or even tearing our the gate posts and using 6x6 posts ajd putting them even deeper, but right now I just need to get these things up and working.
I just don't know how to add the diagonal brace board with the middle support board in the way.
Quite clearly. Even if you wanted to forgive his attempts at humor at your expense, his insistence on you apologizing is indicative of your feelings being beneath his. He cannot place himself in your position to realize it was hurtful, and this will escalate as time passes.