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[–] [email protected] 37 points 11 months ago (3 children)

There are plenty of trans individuals who'd disagree with that. Gender is a made-up concept the same way that 'birds' are a made-up concept - they're a human categorization of actual phenomena.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 11 months ago

Humans just can’t resist categorizing things with fuzzy borders. Just ask any biologists about taxonomy and you’ll see what I mean.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I think this is the point. Maybe? Sorting stuff in categories is a human hobby even if the reality doesn't give a shit about categories. See cladistics: we paste labels on beings and say this a species, this is a genus, and we have to arbitrarily choose when a group is neither one or the other, because life didn't evolve following human rules.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago

Species, as an example, are far from strict and static categories, but such categories are still standard in academia because even in a field as precision-oriented as academic and scientific studies, they ARE still useful reflections of real phenomena.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

And there are trans people who believe gender is a social construct too, though. It is an open debate.

[–] [email protected] 31 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

You can have desires for different things and you can even be attracted to the same gender but creating a new gender is silly. You can be male or female and dress and act how you want for the most part. Gender doesn't need to define you and can be black and white just like your hair color. You are you, not your gender.

Anyway my option isn't meant to offend. If I've upset you I am sorry but I've just seen a lot of the more wild LGBQ+ be a bit to flamboyant in "gender".

[–] zazo 5 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Exactly? As in, I identify as gender fluid not because my gender defines me, but precisely because the binary "male" and "female" genders don't directly apply to my identity, so a new term that better aligns with how I feel is useful.

So if it's "silly" to "create" a "new" gender, what do you suggest as an alternative?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Hope this isn't an offensive question to ask - but what do you mean by "how I feel"?

Because, by example, I am a man. I know this because I have the reproductive organs of a man. I am "more manly" than some men, and "less manly" than some other men. But I am a man, regardless of how I feel, dress, act or look.

In my current understanding of gender, being gender fluid would require the hot swapping of your reproductive organs.

So - genuinely (if you want to...) - can you help me understand what you mean by what you said? Perhaps I can become less ignorant without exposing my ignorance to the real world.

[–] samus12345 12 points 11 months ago

You are referring to sex, not gender.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (2 children)

100% agree but can never get my point across this nicely then I get banned for a few days

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Seems like a you issue tbh we should all be a bit Kinder don't you agree?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago

Why do you say that? It's your kind of response that makes me scared to expose my ignorance through fear of being mischaracterised as hateful. So I just live in ignorance, keep my head down and don't learn about other people's perspectives. I'm pretty confident I don't offend anyone...but mostly because I avoid any conversation that involves anything even remotely in this sphear just to ensure I don't accidentally cause offence.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

From my experience people who struggle to find there sexual identity tend to get offended easily when you ask basic questions. I honestly don't know much so my questions are out of arrogance.

[–] hperrin 25 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Gender is as real as favorite colors.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Honestly, I'm not convinced your wrong

[–] Mr_Blott 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

I'm convinced *you're wrong

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago (1 children)

It is not your wrong, it is their wrong.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Yep and I never understood the idea, it just seemed weird to me. People always said to me that you can just feel your gender but I don't feel a gender or know what it would feel like. That's how I found out about being Agender, well it was after I found out about being AroAce and I wondered if the A- prefix could apply to gender, and it does.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 11 months ago (14 children)

I don’t get the gender conversation. Before you discuss, define what gender means. After you defined it, it should be clear how many types there are or can exist.

If you can’t decide on one definition, then make up several. „Genders A“, „Genders B“, …

It should be very simple.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (2 children)

Sex is biology, gender is sociology.

It is the spectrum between feminine and masculine, where we as a society decide which traits fall where. This changes per culture.

[–] MamLaLiq 7 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Also how much you will earn. I was paid a quarter less than my male colleagues (ICT).

80s joke

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

If it changes by culture, then each culture will have their own definition. So if we ask a Texan Redneck and a Swedish Librarian, we will get two very different answers. But they both might be right in their culture.

Culture does not have borders. You and your neighbour have different cultures. So I believe this is nothing you can argue about, unless you specify a definition first. It does not have to be a global definition, it does not have to apply to all people, it doesn’t even have to make sense.

The definition will make it possible to discuss the topic. When the definition is precise, it will be a very short discussion. The interesting part is coming up with that definition and figuring out what aspects you want to include and what you deem not relevant.

[–] zazo 1 points 11 months ago

Yeah, I agree that OP's explanation right above is precise and short.

Obviously every culture has their own definition of things (same way Japanese people considered blue and green to be the same colour) but that doesn't mean either is right, they're both made up to serve a purpose.

Eg. It's useful to break down the gender spectrum as it allows us to be more precise and descriptive with our language, same way it can be useful to differentiate between blue and green. Still, if you're blue-green colour blind you probably don't really care if someone else has two words for what you perceive to be the same colour..

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago

Gender is a bimodal distribution between "dude" and "lady"

People are the gender that they are, and it's arrogant to think that we can tell someone "actually, your experience of your own body is incorrect." If someone says they're one gender, the other, or neither, who the hell am I to tell them they're wrong?

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 11 months ago (1 children)

@hellfire103 What if genders actually have us instead?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago

@[email protected] Now we're asking the real questions

[–] [email protected] 7 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 10 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Right now it's mine. Y'all can wait patiently for your turn I promise not to hog it

^the^ ^gender^ ^officially^ ^belongs^ ^to^ ^the^ ^state;^ ^I^ ^have^ ^merely^ ^checked^ ^it^ ^out^ ^from^ ^the^ ^tool-share^ ^library^ ^and^ ^must^ ^return^ ^it^ ^in^ ^undamaged^ ^condition^

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Ehhh, I get the point, and I know it's exaggerated for the lolz, which it definitely got.

That being said, the fact that gender as a part of language is indeed a construct, the fact that humans have a strong history of making those constructs and organizing around them points to the underlying essence of what gender actually represents does have more of a non ideated origin.

And, generally, for the species as a whole, the binary works for both the body and the mind. The fact that there are a large number of people that don't fall close enough to the ends of the spectrum for it to actually be binary doesn't get rid of the fact that the percentage of people that don't fit the gender norms that are commonly associated with a given "sex" is damn low ratio.

That's why it's vital to protect that minority, mind you. That's why we have to take care of our own, and our own is every human being. I'm just saying that the issues around gender and sex are issues that stem from a pretty small minority. For the rest of the population, gender and sex aren't separate for the individual person.

[–] zazo 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Which is why so many people struggle to empathize. But I agree, just because most people can walk, doesn't mean we shouldn't build more access ramps.

[–] arin 4 points 11 months ago (1 children)
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[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago

Politics aside, how the hell is this same picture in my Top Six Hour feed seven times in five groups I don't subscribe to? Impressive spam-job.

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