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Anon's mom gives them an ultimatum (sh.itjust.works)
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[–] [email protected] 53 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Now that's some bad parenting. But you are going to need to do something if you don't eventually wanna live on the streets. Your mom isn't going to be there forever, and doing nothing for longer will make it more difficult.

And if it's her that's keeping you down and disfunctional, I can tell you from experience its 1000x better to live alone.

This sounds like getting a job thrown on your lap, unless you really hate it, go for it. You can always use it for some experience and go for something else later.

[–] GlitterInfection 52 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Now that's some bad parenting.

I don't think this counts as parenting, because OP isn't a child.

That's a very fed up roommate being passive aggressive instead of just going through a justified eviction.

[–] [email protected] 28 points 7 months ago

Some kids need a kick in their ass. This person is about 4 years overdue for one.

[–] [email protected] -4 points 7 months ago (3 children)

OP's mom was responsible for making them a productive, happy, independent person. But she clearly failed, that's on her

[–] [email protected] 32 points 7 months ago (1 children)

I don't think anyone knows the green text poster in question, so it could be either honestly. 'You can lead a horse to water' and all of that

[–] krashmo 20 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Only children think this way. Sure, your parents are supposed to teach you how to do things but if they don't or if they do a bad job of it you're still an asshole if you don't at least try to figure it out for yourself.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Sometimes you get lucky as a parent and your kids do, sometimes you need to teach them. That's a risk you take when making kids

[–] [email protected] 12 points 7 months ago (3 children)

Yea genuinely like I want to become productive but my parents have been so controlling that they've stopped me over and over again. Being a NEET at 26 does not happen in a vacuum.

[–] VicentAdultman 9 points 7 months ago (1 children)

My mom would complain that me or any of my brothers weren't working, but the minute we got jobs she would say anything for us to quit it. Same thing with college, never a word of positivity, just eventually say "why u going through all of this? Quit". It's hard being in this kind of toxic environment, consider that your mom is the one that gave you resources such as confidence, dealing with frustration, etc. Being this ambivalent make you question how insecure you raise a child (check John Bowlby). I am not taking away responsibility from anon, but things are complex and sometimes we need help to see clearer and get out of the house.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

Thanks

[–] [email protected] 7 points 7 months ago

Basically it's either a shit environment or medical issues that make people turn out this way.

Plenty of people are successful in spite of those things, it's not really fair to hold up who got lucky as the standard.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago (1 children)

NEET

kinda hesitant to google this.... what is it?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Iirc it means "Not in Employment, Education or Training"

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

TY

[–] [email protected] 25 points 7 months ago (2 children)

Please dispatch is a truly terrible first job though.

They need to be started off with something much more low stakes so that when they inevitably screw it up it isn't a major issue

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

Not if they're in a smaller town.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago

I'm not familiar with the field but that is a good point

[–] [email protected] 45 points 7 months ago (2 children)

In case you’re out of the loop like me and need to look it up:

NEET = This is a term used in the field of education, the acronym stands for; Not in Education, Employment or Training but young people have started to use it as a term for bums/layabouts with no future.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 7 months ago

Ah, so a gamer

[–] Keineanung 1 points 7 months ago

Thank you!

[–] [email protected] 23 points 7 months ago (2 children)

I hope he lasts three months, because they always need more dispatchers. So many of them quit because of the horrible things they hear. Like people crying for help while they’re being killed.

I couldn’t do that shit. I don’t have the fortitude for it.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 7 months ago

Imagine the call goes dead and your manager says "what are you waiting for, log the ticket already" and you're just

[–] ChexMax 4 points 7 months ago

My buddy who worked dispatch said the vast majority of the calls were elderly people who are lonely. We're in Florida though, so maybe that's why

[–] tory 18 points 7 months ago

One wonders how we have a functioning dispatch system. Folks have the most stressful phone conversations you could imagine nonstop for their entire workday. Mistakes are documented publically and may quite literally cost lives. It is extremely likely that you will develop trauma, so much so that counseling is free and integrated into the job. The rules are rigid, and you are subject to initial and ongoing randomized drug tests.

Total compensation: ~ 23$/hr

[–] kite 9 points 7 months ago (1 children)

Where in the world are you able to have your mom "sign you up" to be a dispatcher?! To work for our dispatch, you have to apply, have a rigorous background check and a panel-type interview. And then they last less than 3 months because they make all their dispatchers switch from day to night shift and vice versa every two weeks.

[–] Osix 8 points 7 months ago

They were probably "promised" the job. Anon will will still need to apply and the state will perform the minimum amount of interviews (they're legally obligated to) only to miraculously land on a candidate with no experience. Good old fashioned nepotism.

Most likely this is fiction of a deranged person. Considering every possible situation they might get a job and how to avoid it.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 7 months ago

Pro gamer move.

[–] PunnyName -2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

I'd rather kill myself than work police dispatch.

Edit: folks, this is a commentary on how dispatch jobs have a higher rate of suicide.

[–] [email protected] 15 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

In my city the dispatch handles police/fire/EMS. They're civilians and it's a pretty depressing job. The pay isn't that good but it is with the city so the benefits are great, lots of time off and top-notch insurance.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 7 months ago

Let's hope anon won't get a major disaster at his watch. I've heard many stories about how 911 hotline workers get scarred by this job. You get people literally dying or endangered on the phone and can't do nothing but forwarding their request to another service.