Bisexual

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This is a community for bisexuals, their allies, friends, family, anyone curious about us or our community, or just people who want to hang out.

Bisexual means different things to different people, and I'm not going to tell you what it should mean to you. But one thing I will say is that being bisexual does NOT mean being trans-exclusionary. We love no matter what dingles, dongles, or dangles you do or do not have in your pants.

Of course, there are the basic rules. No hate speech, no brigading, no doxing, no homophobia, no transphobia, no sexism, no racism, no illegal material. Rules will be added as needed.

At the moment, we do not have a hard and fast rule over NSFW images or posts, but I will say that this is a community about bisexuality, not for porn. Please don't make me ban NSFW content altogether.

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is there anyway to shift my bi cycle? (lemmy.ml)

submitted 2 years ago by [email protected] to c/bisexual

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This is a really stupid question I know but recently I had a bi cycle and I want to be able to me more attracted to guys again. I don't like the fact that I'm nearly straight rn. Is there any way to influence who I'm attracted to?

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[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 years ago

What's the timespan? Mine only last a couple days at most. If it's that long, just chill and wait.

It's worth inspecting why you don't like being nearly straight. I'm slightly traumatized and afraid of women because of an abusive ex. My fear of losing interest in men it's partly attached to that.

I've found that when I'm in a woman phase, it's often because I haven't seen a beautiful man in a while. Same the other way too. Then I see one and suddenly I'm into men/women again. Being bi doesn't mean you MUST be attracted to all men or all women. Let's be real.

Maybe you just need to meet someone your type to end the cycle.

[–] feddylemmy 5 points 2 years ago

Why would you want to influence who you're attracted to? I think the heart of it is why do you feel like you don't like the fact that you're "nearly straight".

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 years ago

Porn?

I know men in conventional porn are 🤮 but tiktok has some very nice thirst traps. You could also read some smut, see if that revs your engine.

[–] Lamhfada 3 points 2 years ago

I don't think your attraction per se is a controllable thing, but sometimes I find I need to spend some time in queer spaces/talking with queer friends/consuming queer media/art to feel a sense of connection to the broader LGBT+ community and the community of gay/bi/men who have sex with men subcultures.

Remember, bisexuals in "straight" relationships or outside of relationships who are feeling more attracted to the opposite gender are still bisexual.

So I'd say, relax, don't sweat it, but maybe see about making some bi/gay friends or spending times in LGBT+ spaces?

[–] Dufurson 1 points 2 years ago

I don't think so, you can't deny what your body asks for, maybe it's the men you hang out with who don't attract you for some reason or you just want to change a little. Btw, I like more girls generally but only because I'm more selective with men and I don't meet any enby yet

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Go see the Barbie movie