They communicate honestly
this post was submitted on 02 Nov 2023
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I don't think I've stopped to think what the different flags for people are for me. It's just something I've instinctively known and haven't really thought about
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Interested in learning and willing to change their mind when presented with new information.
Books. If you go to someone's house and they don't have books, don't fuck them. - John Waters
Massively. My first manoeuvre when I go in someone’s house is to look at their bookcase, and judge them accordingly.
I read ebooks 😢
They are self-aware, willing to change and learn, and have a rational, logical view of things. It's rare to meet people like that, but they are by far the best people. Someone's philosophy on life is probably the best descriptor of a person.
Informs you about stuff proactively and you don't have to pull everything out of them yourself
- Atheist
- Common sense of humor + loves memes/shitposting
- Loves computers
- Self confident
- Good looking
- Doing (cardio) sports
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Their fingernails. It sounds weird, but you can tell a lot about a person by how maintained their nails are. If they have long gross unkept nails, it says a lot. Versus trimmed and clean nails.
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I always do dinner and a movie for Date 1. At dinner, how do they treat the staff? Are they kind, do they thank the worker for their help? Do they tip well? Do they take forever to pick an item off the menu? When I offer to pay, do they initially counter offer for them to pay or us split at least?
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I'd just ask them their thoughts on trans folks wanting to participate in the Olympics with their same gender. The way they react to a hardball question pretty quickly outs any red flags.
That’s interesting. I was a long time nail biter, and I only recently managed to stop, I literally never before had cut my nails. Even when I was a baby, my mom bit my nails, she was like 15 when I was born and didn’t know how to adult. Do you have any tips for taking care of nails? It’s all new to me. So far I’ve found that filing them is worth doing, and my hands get way dirtier now that I have a place for dirt to hide under.
Proud of you for breaking the habit! Not sure if you're masc or fem, but I'm masc and all I do is clip them before they get too long which helps prevent the buildup of dirt. Nail clippers also usually have a little scraper attachment that works great for getting dirt out when you notice it. I've never felt the need to file my nails, but you may prefer the extra smoothness!
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Texts me and makes plans instead of me being the one who has to.
They care about other people
You know, I don't have one. I should come up with something so people have quick ways to go up in my opinion and not just down. It will make me less sad.