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Is it possible to start out at, let's say, 20 years and be sharp as a knife. Never forgetting things, never dropping things, always have an answer ready and can do multiple things at once. And then around 30 you suddenly drop stuff you have in your hands, you forget if you locked the door, your contactlenses have gone missing from the storagecontainer, people need to stop talking while you drive?

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[–] canthidium 15 points 1 year ago

Oh yes, there's many things that can cause this as others have said. Stress, sleeplessness, mental problems or illness, and especially physical health and weight. I'm almost 40 and I find I have "degraded" in many ways due mostly to my weight, depression, and diabetes. I lost my balance a lot now, I find I am not as quick witted as I used to be. The main one is my memory. I used to have an encyclopedic memory and do still to some extent, but interactions with people, movie plots, I don't remember as well anymore. But there's still so much trivia and knowledge that is just stuck in my brain.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Everyone certainly lose their sharpness with age. But at 30, presuming you didn't experience something that could cause PTSD or that you are severely sleep deprived, dropping things you are holding is a bit too much. The other signs are not looking good either, some people are a bit like that by default but keyword- by default. They were also forgetful and easy to distract in their 20s too.

I would recommend you get this checked by a professional, see a doctor.

Even of you don't have a neurological condition causing this, the symptoms are yelling there is something else that is really out of whack- even if it is something "stupid" like lack of sleep or a poor diet, whatever the cause is it deserves to be addressed seriously. Good luck OP.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Not really what I wanted to hear. But maybe what I needed to hear. Thanks.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I'm glad you're taking these serious answers to heart.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 year ago

If it happened suddenly this is not normal and you should see a doctor

If it's happened gradually it might be the result of more stress, less sleep, etc, but you still might want to consider talknig to someone. Conditions like thyroid issues can cause a global reduction in function like that and it can be insidious.

[–] fubo 7 points 1 year ago

It's certainly possible with neurological problems or just stress or sleeplessness.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Bro just discovered the concept of aging 😅

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (1 children)

From a sexagenarian with no health issues, I really noticed some degradation in acuity around 40. I have a lot less now. There's stuff I just can't do anymore. It's fun getting old.

[–] rhacer 1 points 1 year ago

Same here. I've always been clumsy, but holy smokes now days it can be really bad.

Also, I no longer have the mental accuity I used to have things take longer to learn, and I'm often stuck with the right answer on the tip of my tongue but can't get it out.

I'll be sixty in two months.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago

It makes sense to me that our coordination would deteriorate over time. I’m not sure about the difference between 20 and 30 though. What you’re describing sounds pretty significant

[–] WhoRoger 3 points 1 year ago

I don't think such a significant difference should happen from 20 to 30. You probably have an issue of some kind. It may be something simple as insufficient vitamin intake or such, but I'd suggest looking at your lifestyle and giving it a thought.

People often joke about how the body at 30 is already half-way to a zombie but it really shouldn't be that bad. Source: I am 40.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Oh ya, I'm 32 now and I'm noticing exactly this.

Honestly, I have a lot of stress right now and my lifestyle isn't the best... So I think it's my own fault and not beause I'm getting older.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Thankfully I'm not alone. It really is significant. Not from one day on the other, but definetly not gradual. I hope you can reduce your stress so that it helps a bit.

My lifestyle isn't the best.

You mean unhealthy food and little to no exercise or worse?

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

I hope you can reduce your stress so that it helps a bit.

Thank you!

You mean unhealthy food and little to no exercise or worse?

Yes. I suffer from depression and some other diagnosed "hurdles", which make everyday life hard, because they're pretty serious. These things cause me to also suffer from insomnia, which in turn causes me not to eat and exercise well.

I have two children and therefore a lot of responsiblity, so I'm trying hard to fix myself. But it's a long process, really. Also, because I often can't get myself to sleep at night, I stay awake and then, I have to use caffeine to stay awake during the day, etc. This is also really, really bad for concentration and body coordination.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Damn, indeed you have some troubles/stress. I have hope for you if/when you sort it out, you will become less clumsier.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago

Thank you very much, I hope so, too.

[–] GustavoM 3 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

There are many factors and reasons behind all those. But only thing is certain -- if (any of those issues you mentioned) gets worse, then go to the doctor.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Are you saying getting clumsier in the absence of illness? I'm definitely clumsier now but due to lack of proper sleep. it's concerning that I can forget words mid-sentence, bumping into things and generally forgetting tasks. But a day of solid sleep usually reverses these problems.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Yes, without illness. I recognize the 'no sleeo' part. When I had little sleep, it's all much worse.

[–] copylefty 2 points 1 year ago

Yes.

Source: me

[–] nihilist_hippie 2 points 1 year ago

I'm 31 and I feel this.

[–] tallwookie 2 points 1 year ago

old age and/or neurological decay is probably the cause

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

That is called aging. I used to be so smart but with no wisdom, now I have more wisdom, push pull doors, and trip over air.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago (1 children)

Suddenly? No. Age creeps up on you slowly, and not (in big ways) as early as your thirties. This sounds more like a potential neurological problem.

If this is you, get it checked out sooner rather than later. If you're USian, I'm sorry that this might be too expensive an option to consider.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

Thankfully I'm not a USian. So I will get it checked out. Someone else mentioned as well. Not exactly what I wanted to hear, but better safe then sorry.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

I've become clumsier and mentally slower since I was in my twenties. I'm soon 38.

[–] SuperEars 1 points 1 year ago

I've had clumsy moments as time goes on, and I've thought about this before, but in my case I can chalk it up to two big things:

1.) I've gained weight, and I believe there's a correlation between aging and gaining weight. Certain maneuvers are noticeably harder. I seem more top-heavy than in my memories of being younger.

2.) I have KIDS. I have almost died so many times because we're disorganized and my kids' crap is EVERYWHERE. I've had one broken toe, countless foot bruises, surprise falcon kicks to baby skulls, and several instances of "Why, child, have you crawled under my feet, from behind me, while I briskly walk to the bathroom? Well I don't want to maim or kill you, so....Guess I'll die aka avoid putting any weight on that foot and toss my body as far away from theirs as possible during planetfall btw Did you know plastic cups explode if crushed just right?" Likelihood of having kids correlates with age, I assume.

Now...you listed several mental things besides physical. So I guess I'm only speaking to physical clumsiness :P

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago

It's possible but such a sharp decline from 20s to 30s would mean there is some underlying health condition responsible for it. Motor functions should start to decline in your 70s to 80s, not in your 30s or 40s.

Your mental capacity should stay the same well into your 60s as long as you keep stimulating it. Your brain is only fully developed in your mid to late 20s. After that, picking up new skills might become more difficult but there shouldn't be a drastic fall off in memory or concentration.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

I'm late 30s. I've slowed down a lot since my 20s. Reflexes aren't anywhere near as sharp, I use to have very quick hands and reflexes. As far as memory, I'm still good at remembering things that I care about but it's far from the steel trap it use to be. For stuff that's not things that I care about I have to write it down, I'm still pretty good but I forget stuff now.

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