submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

Give me your worst, Lemmy! Absolutely nothing is off limits. Let’s get fucking weird!

I post this here because /c/iama doesn’t seem to be a thing…

Don’t hold back you jerks!

EDIT: It’s just about 05:00 for me. Night night! I’ll answer any other questions. In a few hours!

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[-] [email protected] 79 points 9 months ago
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[-] [email protected] 57 points 9 months ago

Are you AVAB (assigned Vim at birth) or are you trans-editor?

[-] [email protected] 33 points 9 months ago

Definitely AVAB. I love working through a terminal. One cannot do everything on iTerm2 as one could do on a Debian distro, but it gets pretty close.

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[-] [email protected] 36 points 9 months ago

What's the hardest part of being out as trans, other than the obvious transphobes? The subtle stuff most people don't think about, I mean.

[-] [email protected] 57 points 9 months ago

Not the OP, but if you are soliciting opinions...

For me it's the fact that nobody really believes us when we talk about our issues or even the things we personally experience. Even well meaning people, even friends, immediately assume that we are exaggerating or imagining things when we talk, or assume they know better about what is or is not harmful to us.

Like the obvious hateful transphobes are one thing. But getting that attitude from people one knows personally is tiring and more than a little scary.

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[-] [email protected] 42 points 9 months ago

For me, the hardest part is trying to figure out where I belong. In Viet culture, at a party, the guys hang with the guys, and the girls with the girls. Even when I put a full face on, I never feel like I am one of the girls. It doesn’t help that everyone knew me before I came out. So I don’t fit in anywhere. It’s lonely. My sister Chi Man tries to help, but I am usually the odd one out. This has been going on for years now, so I have tried to make peace with it. This is a lonely life. With that said, I do not regret my decision to live as the person I am meant to be.

All I need in this life is my son and my best friend. That is enough for me.

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[-] [email protected] 23 points 9 months ago

I prefer MacOS overall. Explain to me why I am so wrong!

My rPi is obvs on Debian, but does Plex really count?

[-] [email protected] 9 points 9 months ago

Mac on the laptop + Linux on the server = pure heaven.

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[-] flubba86 22 points 9 months ago

Your opinion on programmer socks?

[-] [email protected] 28 points 9 months ago

Hold up, are we talking about those knee high socks that don’t match with any clothing what-so-ever??

[-] Kushan 20 points 9 months ago

What's the weirdest thing that's happened to you since coming out as trans?

Let's find the benchmark for making the questions weird.

[-] [email protected] 41 points 9 months ago

That is a great question!

I need to preface this by saying that my entire friend group is Viet.

In Viet culture, male and female roles are explicitly defined. That means that, generally, the girls hang with the girls, and the guys hang with the guys.

The weirdest part is kind of sad. I don’t fit in with the girls because I am not feminine enough, and the guys try to grab my tits as a joke. I don’t belong anywhere.

My best friend, Chi Man is the one that helps me stay grounded to this earth.

Otherwise, it’s the usual contract custodian doesn’t get a good look at me, so they warn me about going into the men’s room at work (where I was specifically told to go )

[-] [email protected] 33 points 9 months ago

Those guys sound like assholes and many would consider their behaviour to be sexual harassment/ assault.

[-] [email protected] 38 points 9 months ago

Agreed. After I was raped the first time, my outlook on the world changed. This was a guy I met on Grindr, and I was not being safe at all. My big sis tried to warn me, but I just wanted to have fun like the cishet people do. I know SA is a big problem when it comes to casual sex and women. I never thought it would happen to me. That is what we all think.

The pigs never even contacted me after my rape-kit at the hospital.

Everyone, regardless of gender., should be careful out there. Remember that the pigs are not your friends; they exist as protectors of property and straight white people.

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[-] [email protected] 18 points 9 months ago

What's your opinion of the designated hitter rule in major league baseball?

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[-] [email protected] 17 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

[edit: sp] Hi! Also a trans girl. (But only high on caffeine, and not drunk because it's end of the month and I'm broke.) Let's get to the question that really, really defines the future.

What are the best and coolest locomotives? (don't need to be the same! and often aren't!) 🚆

[-] [email protected] 15 points 9 months ago

I am a huge fan of AbroadInJapan. I’d be really curious to try the night train!

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[-] [email protected] 14 points 9 months ago

Tonight was a lot of beer + a lot of Hennessy VSOP + some really really good coke. Give me your worst, Lemmy. Reddit used to pick me apart. Try and see if you can!

[-] [email protected] 13 points 9 months ago

What's your opinion on Baldurs Gate 3?

[-] [email protected] 10 points 9 months ago

Gotta be totally honest…The last console game I played seriously was COD WWll. Shipment was the tits until hackers got in. These days, I am as casual as 2048. Though, depressive episodes (thanks, bipolar 2), take most joy away from me. If my mind worked right, i don’t even know what game I’d like to play. Maybe Zelda, since the last one I played was ocarina of time on 64 about 22 years ago.

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[-] [email protected] 13 points 9 months ago

Because the topic is NSFW : How did transition impacted your sex-life ?

[-] [email protected] 28 points 9 months ago

That’s a great question!

Transitioning left me with a tiny “dating” pool. Most of my “dates” were with chasers on Grindr or Taimi.

Except for the 2 sexual assaults, I’ve been fine with serving my purpose. After the 2nd rape, though, I gave up on casual encounters and dating in general. I haven’t had an actual relationship with anyone in about 7 years.

I will likely never meet someone who likes me for me. It took me YEARS to accept this difficult truth. It contributes to my depressive episodes all of the time.

I’d rate myself as a 6/10 on a good day. It’s just really hard to find guys that are interested in me beyond the fetish that they see. It’s easier to give up.

[-] [email protected] 15 points 9 months ago

Holy shit, 2 rapes...

So sorry that you had to go through this. And I wish you all the best for the future

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[-] [email protected] 11 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

I guess my question's always been that since gender is (to my incomplete understanding) a social construct and can change, and transgender people seek to change to a gender that feels more appropriate, how did you (a) know what felt right, (b) that what felt right wasn't completely appropriate for your gender and the active definition of gender needed to change, and (c) where does chemical and surgical transition factor in for a gender based thing when attempting to find for comfortable self? Because that seems like a sex (in the clinical terminology) thing as much as a gender one (which of course there's probably a connection, I guess I'm just not clear where the line really breaks.)

To be clear, I think my questions are entirely too "rationalizing a deep emotional and person thing" so I don't really expect an answer, I've just never been invited to address the question to anyone before.

[-] [email protected] 17 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Not OP, but gender identity is a real biological thing that is linked to brain chemistry. Gender expression is the social construct. Sex is your body phenotype, which correlates to your genotype.

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[-] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago

Gender is not a social construct, its neurochemical. Gender roles are a social construct.

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[-] [email protected] 10 points 9 months ago

Prove the Generalized Stokes Theorem.

[-] [email protected] 21 points 9 months ago

So there was this guy, named Stokes. And, in 1966, pick up sticks, he proved that it was actually better to leave the bottle of ketchup upside-down. Pretty sure he won the Noble Prize, plus American Idol for that discovery.

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[-] [email protected] 10 points 9 months ago

What's the trick to making a good grill cheese sandwich?

[-] [email protected] 14 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Whatever you do, do not use mayo.

[-] Adulated_Aspersion 12 points 9 months ago

This is patently incorrect! Mayo on the outside is the best grilled cheese exterior!

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[-] [email protected] 10 points 9 months ago

How are/were you able to answer all of the questions in such a coherent manner, going as far to properly using markdown for certain responses? (Coming from a person who hasn't had experience with getting high)

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To be honest, I’ve never had them. Though, I eat the weirdest Viet and Laos cuisine, so maybe I would like them?

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