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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 day ago

Compartmentalise. It's a trait of Homo sapien to convice themselves things are true, so they can believe any bullshit, try not to fall for it yourself in otjer areas.

The problem for me arises when they speak from authority on another subject they are expert in, if they're so naive and easily misled on that, how can i trust their opinion on anything substantive?

A superb example of this is Katherine Hayhoe. I get around it by just reading nothing she writes on climate change because her evangelical christianisim just muddies the waters too much to take her at all seriously. On a side note, my goto is Professor Kevin Andersin.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 days ago (2 children)

You likely also participate in rituals that were taught to you that are not solely grounded in logic or science. Do you do things in a certain order for no reason other than your parents taught you to do so? Do you avoid eating certain foods because you never ate them growing up?

People who are raised religious may not be fanatic believers, but they may still be "culturally religious" e.g. take part in Ramadan, avoid eating pork, because that's the way they grew up, and a lot of the time it means they can be included in cultural matters of the community they come from.

As for why some people are proper religious, fully believing and all, I also don't think all beliefs have to be rational. Some beliefs are comforting. If it helps someone to get through a difficult time by believing there's a higher power rooting for them, or who has pre-planned their suffering for a greater good, they may choose to believe that because it's mentally easier. Arguably that is a rational belief anyway because it benefits you and makes your life easier to get through.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago

If it helps someone to get through a difficult time by believing there's a higher power rooting for them, or who has pre-planned their suffering for a greater good, they may choose to believe that because it's mentally easier.

Additionally, it can be a catalyst for seeking novel solutions and developing strengths we never knew we have if we can get over the victim mentality and allow it. I'm not saying that's always the case. A stroke of fortune is often required.

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[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago

The end scares most people so much that logic gets thrown out the window.

[–] [email protected] 40 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Wait, there's more: Some people are skeptical even of religion, yet still practice a religion.

We reconcile that by:

  • admitting that we can't make sense of everything

  • recognizing that many of the ways our religion interacts with reality are aspirational rather than descriptive

  • rejecting dogma

  • choosing to persevere in doubt rather than cling to false certainty

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Can I ask what religion you practice and what drives you to continue?

[–] [email protected] 21 points 2 days ago (9 children)

I'm Christian, Episcopalian. What drives me to continue practicing? There's a lot of things:

Socially, I enjoy the sense of community that comes with being an active member of a congregation, and it provides both a reminder to and a venue for giving back in the form of volunteering and charity.

Personally, I appreciate the rhythm it gives to my weeks and years, with specific times set aside for joy and grief, reflection and action, uncomfortable growth and quiet recovery.

Spiritually, I draw both comfort and strength from my relationship with God; whether or not this is a spiritual sort of "rubber ducking" doesn't change how it affects me.

Morally, I think the example of Christ is a good one to follow, and again, that doesn't really depend on Him being a real historical figure.

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Does it bother you that only one of those criteria is actually tied to faith in a god’s existence?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Sometimes!

My college chaplain often said "If religion makes you comfortable you're doing it wrong." So, yes, I'm bothered that so much of my connection to my religion is circumstancial, but I'd rather be uncomfortable about it than dishonest with myself. And admittedly, I'm kind of at a low point right now, so my answers might be very different in eighteen months.

That said, God exists or doesn't regardless of what I believe. I don't particularly need to take anything on faith to find value in my religion.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago

God exists or doesn't regardless of what I believe.

This is a very profound realisation

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 days ago (1 children)

Why is it good that it makes you uncomfortable? And I’ll go a step further and ask whether all discomfort regarding religion is good. For example, was your chaplain saying you should be uncomfortable because you’re not sure if it’s rooted in truth, or were they saying you should be going out of your comfort zone and challenging yourself to do more and/or expressing your faith in new ways? If so, are the two equivalent?

I’m asking in genuine curiosity: I grew up Catholic, and never felt much of a community motivation for my religion. Once I got to college, I mostly stopped going to church, with occasional bursts where I’d decide to go for a month or so. So going to church dried up before my faith did for me, and I don’t really understand going in the absence of faith.

I hung on as an agnostic theist for years, though lately I think I’ve been more of an agnostic atheist. I agree with your sentiment on God existence not being predicated on belief, but have also reached the conclusion that if I need belief to accept something as true, it probably isn’t.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago (1 children)

Definitely the "go out of your comfort zone" take. Christ loves us as we are, but you can't stay the same, act the same, and have the true repentance required for salvation. Striving to be better is not comfortable. Confronting your own sins is not comfortable. Empathizing with the downtrodden is not comfortable. Going out and getting your hands dirty and your bank account emptier to help the poor, the sick, the widowed and orphaned, the homeless, the hurting is not comfortable. But that's what the example of Christ requires us to do.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 hours ago

How do you reconcile that with your discomfort about much of your connection to religion being circumstantial? Isn’t that very different than what you just told me?

After all, the post you just gave me is the practiced rhetoric of a firm believer. You were able to fall back into it quite easily, but does it accurately reflect how you really feel? Do you still feel this tie to Christ and that you are being held to this divine mandate given that you were saying you (your faith?) was at a low point a couple posts earlier?

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 days ago* (last edited 1 day ago)

Deep cultural conditioning. When a person approaches something totally new they will use reasonable standards of evidence, but in religious communities there's a expectation present and deeply established that certain things shouldn't be questioned, or at least don't need to be shown true.

Note that in certain places there basically aren't atheists, so it's not like you need to be illogical relative to most to believe.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

I used to know this guy who majored in astrophysics or astronomy (can't remember which).

To paraphrase his reasoning: There is nothing about physics that prohibits the existence of a god. The Bible has many things that clash with modern scientific understanding, but the Bible was an interpretation of things as they stood almost two thousand years ago, and is therefore likely to fail in many of its explanations. Religion is about faith, science is not.

He considered himself a Christian, and didn't see why that and his field of study would be mutually exclusive. Also, he was pretty open minded about most things and overall a pretty chill guy regarding other people's view and lifestyles.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 day ago* (last edited 1 day ago) (1 children)

Not everyone who is deeply religious is a true believer. Some just see it as a community, and the rigid adherance to the rules as the key to that community. One of the rules is to always say you're a true believer, though. My sister in law is like this. She just decided one day to join a religion, researched the ones with the perks that best suited her and joined it.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

My aunt joined a humanist church, which is basically "religion" for atheists. It was literally just Sunday mass without the worship.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago

Tbh I think a lot of people bury that logical side deep down and compartmentalize. The narrative we tell ourselves can be quite powerful.

[–] [email protected] 10 points 2 days ago (2 children)

Historically/anthropologically, conforming to the beliefs of the society you live in is the most logical thing a human can do for their survival.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 day ago (1 children)

The way i think about it:

The brain has two halves (hemispheres)

The left hemisphere does rational thinking

the right hemisphere does magical thinking (which probably also covers religion)

Both of these hemispheres developed through evolution, because both of them are useful and beneficial to your life. That is why you should employ both.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 day ago

Would that not require hypocrisy in a lot of areas?

[–] [email protected] 21 points 2 days ago (9 children)

veritassium did a video replicating a FASCINATING study that proves that logical people get dramatically less logical when they encounter facts that contradicts their deeply held beliefs; they get even less logical that "non-logical" people

so they don't consolidate the 2 sides of themselves; instead they apply their logic to the things that they don't care much about and get less logical on the subjects/topic that they care more about it.

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 days ago (1 children)

I’m curious what you mean by β€œdrop their skepticism.”

I believe the universe was created and I also believe that modern science does an incredibly good job describing the way it functions to the best of our ability. I do not believe the idea of religion is 100% at odds with science

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago) (5 children)

By drop their skepticism I mean dropping their scientific mindset of theories are not facts, an experiment needs to be reproduceable, etc. I don't believe that science disproves religion but I do believe there are too many unproveable aspects of most religions for me to be too skeptical to believe in fully

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 days ago* (last edited 2 days ago)

Yes, I know a guy like this. I'm not aware of his considerations of how he is able to separate science from religion, other than I guess the fact that they are two separate things.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 2 days ago (4 children)

I had a colleague a few years ago, who wasn't dumb. He'd question everything, often discussing things down to excruciating details. Like, you seriously couldn't shut him up, with how much he was putting everything into question.

Except when it came to the bible. That was what he considered unquestionable truth.

One time, I felt like I kind of got through to him. We were discussing the Big Bang and whatnot, and I told him that I don't believe that actually started the universe, which really caught him off-guard, because he thought all the science people were a big hivemind and no one's allowed to disagree. I'm guessing, because that's how he's been taught about the bible, so he just assumed the enemy is taught the same way.
And yeah, I explained to him that I don't believe it started things, that I don't believe in creation (the fundamental concept as well as the non-evolution thingamabob), because things don't just randomly start existing. When you produce a chair, that's just some atoms rearranged from a tree, which is just some atoms rearranged from the ground and the air, which is rearranged from yet another place. That explanation also kind of got to him, because it really is all around us that things don't just pop into existence, ever.

What's also kind of interesting/funny, is that he did not actually have a terribly good understanding of the bible.
One time, I don't know how we got to that topic, but I was like, wait, isn't there a commandment that says you shouldn't be using god's name in vain? And at first he just said no, there's not, to then start really heavily thinking when I didn't back down. But yeah, I had to then look it up to confirm it, because he did not know his commandments.
That was his worst moment by far, but we had many bible debates, where I, with my shitty school knowledge and never having been interested in any of it, was telling him things he didn't know.

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