I don't think it's immoral, and I also don't think it's immoral to have the child. It's more complicated than "disability" or "ability", if you can handle the job and give that kid the best life they could have had, short or long, love them and see it through, that is not immoral. If you know you cannot, and it would wreck your life or be very detrimental to your already born kids, it's certainly not immoral to abort the fetus and focus on what you can do.
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That is a hell of a moral question that I don't think I or anybody else can answer for another individual.
Edit: I have no idea one direction or the other but I assume you asked this as it's something that's come up. If so I feel for you, genuinely, I cannot comprehend the pain such a situation would mount on an individual and the weight such a decision would have.
Please be more specific about the actions that are to decide, when you say generally "to not have a disabled child". IMHO the whole ethical discussion, or any ethical answers are not possible without being completely clear on these specifics.
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I've said this many, many times: If abortion is a viable option, it is the only option worthy of consideration.
No.
Everyone has their own opinion about it but I don't think that there is any eternal consequence to it.
It's just a really shitty thing that people have to go through sometimes, either shitty that they prevent the child from being born and then have to live with their own guilt about it, or shitty that they let the child be born regardless of their feelings and then have to deal with the consequences.
It's a bad roll of the die anyway you look at it
No.
People are all okay with it until the disabled child grows up and they have to spend two or three times the amount to tend to that child. And have to pay more. And have to go through so many obstacles just to support and keep that child going.
Every disabled child I've ever seen in my life, whether it's from down syndrome types to ones stuck in a chair for the rest of their life with abnormalities. I can't help but feel absolute pity and wonder exactly what they'd be thinking if their brains were normal enough to have them speak. I don't think they'd be wishing to continue living. They'd either want to die or have a different life where they're normal like everyone else.
And I think it's absolutely cruel for parents to keep them living like that.
People already question if putting a child into this world of suffering and misery is right. If more people asked themselves the question and seriously tried to find an answer to it, the world would look quite different.
As the father in a family where this decision had to be made once; It is not wrong to decide not to have a child. The reason why is the business of the mother and maybe the father, and nobody else.
A species producing babies (when that species overpopulation has lead to mass extinction of other species) is immoral.