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[–] [email protected] 52 points 2 weeks ago (3 children)

This is actually a real phenomenon. They tested this in several studies, and looking at another person, like when you're sitting across a table, creates more psychosocial cues for confrontation. You can try it with your partner of choice: cuddle with one of you spooning the other, and talk about something mildly upsetting or embarassing to you, then repeat while holding hands and sitting across a table directly looking at each other.

[–] [email protected] 30 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

I think that's why therapy over gaming is helping.

[–] [email protected] 22 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

I see they're not using Mario Kart, Mario Party nor Overcooked if it's helping

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

The trick for Mario Party is to crank up the difficulty on a COM player and then just explicitly ally against them. We all win so long as Luigi loses. Actual star and coin count are just for bragging rights behind the primary objective of putting him in the dirt.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

Yes, and also probably canonically true as well

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago

I've never been more openly vulnerable than when gaming with a buddy of mine. I swear we both know the ins and outs of each other's personal drama without even intending to ever share it. Shit just came out on its own

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 week ago

It is almost as if this whole "face-to-face" thing that was brought up so much in the online meeting debate when companies insisted on video calls isn't always as universally helpful as some people think. Almost as if human interactions are complex rather than simplistic.

[–] captainlezbian 1 points 1 week ago

That explains why I can’t look at therapists mid session

[–] [email protected] 20 points 2 weeks ago (2 children)

"the priest in the box" makes it sound more like a sadistic experiment of Schrödinger's

[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 weeks ago

Its like a jack in the box, but more molesty

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 weeks ago

Or a really underwhelming alternate ending to "Se7en"

[–] voxthefox 18 points 2 weeks ago (1 children)

Guess the Dashboard confessional's knew what they were on about

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 week ago

I was gonna say, is this a whole community of people who have never heard of Dashboard Confessional?

Were they actually a niche band and I just assumed they were mainstream?

[–] [email protected] 12 points 2 weeks ago

This is called triangulation! It's when the focus is removed from the hard or vulnerable conversation, so it's easier to have it.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 2 weeks ago

Way easier to crank each other's hogs as well.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

That makes sense. A lot of difficult conversations have been had in bed, while looking at the ceiling or cuddling or in the dark altogether.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 weeks ago

As long as you can hear fine without lip reading

[–] [email protected] 1 points 1 week ago

Oh man, just wait until you find out about taxicab confessional https://m.imdb.com/title/tt0114639/