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Nothing in my life has prepared me to answer that question, let alone to a 5-year-old.

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[–] [email protected] 17 points 1 month ago (3 children)

Some things are pretend, like unicorns. Reality is all the real things you can see, touch, smell, hear, and taste.

[–] Artisian 10 points 1 month ago

Maybe I'd add "and that others could see/touch/smell/hear/taste" - clarifying around vivid imagination, synesthesia, and that reality should be shared. It's the things all reasonable folks can agree about (given sufficient time and access).

[–] toynbee 5 points 1 month ago

This is my favorite answer so far.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (2 children)

What does air see, smell, touch, taste, hear like?

If I was in The Matrix, would that be real?

[–] [email protected] 10 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Answers for little kids don't need to get too detailed and complicated. They'll develop nuance as they get older. Air feels and sounds like wind, though

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago

And if you don't think air smells, fart

[–] [email protected] 8 points 1 month ago (1 children)

It can help to ask in what context they thought of the question. For instance, what if they just want to know what makes "reality TV" different from regular TV?

It's like when the sitcom kid asks, "Mommy, where did I come from?" and after a whole birds-and-bees talk it turns out his new friend is from New Jersey.

[–] toynbee 3 points 1 month ago

Definitely.

In this case I had on the music video for the song "Transcendental Cha Cha Cha" which features several lyrics that mention the word "reality." Probably my kid was just asking the literal meaning of the word but they got distracted before we could discuss it further.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 month ago (1 children)

Reality is what is still there when no one is talking about it or looking at it. You can make ideas real and/or change them, but you can't stop reality by doing nothing.

[–] toynbee 2 points 1 month ago

Not bad, I like it.

[–] random72guy 5 points 1 month ago (1 children)

How about "all the things that are true and none of the things that aren't true?" (Not sure how well the latter part would go over.)

[–] toynbee 3 points 1 month ago

That's a pretty good answer, but I think it might be beyond their desire to process.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 month ago (1 children)

The consistancy of our shared experiences and perceptions. The nutrients of a food is measurable and known without are reality, the tastyness of a praticular food is an opinion that may be mostly shared by our species but is not quantifiable or necessarily consistant. One person loves popcorn, another hates popcorn, but the amount of carbohydrates is agreed.

[–] toynbee 2 points 1 month ago* (last edited 1 month ago) (1 children)

Again, not a bad answer, but I think maybe a bit above a 5 year old.

As I typed this response, they suggested that Santa's reindeer are able to fly due to magic poop.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 1 month ago

many mister rogers episodes talked about make believe and in some ways that highlighted reality vs. it. Not sure if they are available to stream.