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[–] [email protected] 51 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

Friend: Brings up really cool idea for something to do

Me: Awesome! When do you wanna do it?

Friend: blank stare uhhh, I'll have to figure it out, this week isn't good

EVERY TIME

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago

I've started to schedule cool ideas for my friend group because otherwise they absolutely never happen

[–] Smoogs 0 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Unles you both agreed to a leader follower dynamic, When you bring up something cool to do and no one pitches in to help or suggest to take the weight off of only one person doing all the planning just to keep all a good time, then you’ll get it.

[–] [email protected] 26 points 2 months ago

They don’t understand that the planning and setting expectations is what enables me to have fun.

[–] lady_maria 21 points 2 months ago (3 children)

"Who's going?"

"How many people will be there?"

"How far of a drive is it?"

"What's parking like?"

"How expensive is it there?"

These are all very important questions.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (2 children)

"Who are you and why are you texting me at 4am"

[–] [email protected] 7 points 2 months ago

Don't be so freaked out. It's only 2 AM in my timezone.

[–] Agent641 3 points 2 months ago

Bruh you comin out or not?

[–] Holyhandgrenade 2 points 2 months ago

These are all the questions my girlfriend asks me all the time and I give her the deer-in-the-headlights look.
I really need her in my life lol

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

They are tho

[–] HexadecimalSky 17 points 2 months ago (2 children)

Bro we could use that in our group, we are at the point every few weeks someone says we should meetup and do something and we all say "yeah!" then nothing until a few weeks later someone else suggests we do something.

[–] Ifeelya 10 points 2 months ago

Huh, I didn't realize my friends were on Lemmy...

[–] [email protected] 3 points 2 months ago

I've taken to just scheduling things for my friend group. Kinda sucks that I have to take initiative but I like actually doing things more than hanging onto the idea of maybe doing things at some later point

[–] [email protected] 17 points 2 months ago (1 children)

I prefer to contribute nothing then pull out last min at the slightest inconvenience.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago

Oh damn. The shirt I was gonna wear is stinky. Might as well just cancel plans. 😏

[–] [email protected] 14 points 2 months ago

Do a little research in advance to answer one of those questions yourself, and then send a message with that, and the rest of the questions. It takes pressure off the next person to send a message, since you've already done 1/4 of the planning, they won't feel like they're going to end up "in charge". And once one person responds, it'll flow more naturally into a conversation, as the stakes are lower for each new person joining in.

Something like, "It sounds like they don't take reservations. We wanna show up as we can, or meet up first?"

[–] spicytuna62 12 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Was this made by my wife? Are you her? She really has to know all the minutiae of the flow before deciding whether it's worth going with.

Not a dig at her, btw. It can be frustrating to deal with in the moment (I'm more go with the flow than she is), but when we get there and everything goes smoothly, I genuinely appreciate her already having it figured out.

[–] Cris_Color 9 points 2 months ago

Holy shit, I fucking love this 😂

I'm sending this to anyone I'm making plans with for the rest of eternity

[–] Agent641 7 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago) (1 children)

"Anyone finna give me a lift?" Offloads all those concerns to someone else and I no longer feel guilty about that

[–] [email protected] 1 points 2 months ago

This is the way.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 2 months ago

i bring a real "i dont go anywhere, or like being in public, stop asking me to join you or meet you in places i do not like, also i prefer staying at home" energy to the party that nobody likes to any degree.

[–] Carmakazi 5 points 2 months ago

Executive dysfunction go brrr

[–] [email protected] 4 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

The 4W of planning an event: What, Where, When, Who. We instinctively answer these automatically when making a calendar event.

Once this is settled, you can elaborate on the How.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 2 months ago* (last edited 2 months ago)

Yeah, but you always have tissues and mints and make sure the others join the conversation and that time you paid when my car got towed. Won't ever forget it.

[–] Jubei_K_08 2 points 2 months ago

I always worry about parking. Getting towed is a hassle.