Transfem
A community for transfeminine people and experiences.
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Some helpful links:
- The Gender Dysphoria Bible // In depth explanation of the different types of gender dysphoria.
- Trans Voice Help // A community here on blahaj.zone for voice training.
- LGBTQ+ Healthcare Directory // A directory of LGBTQ+ accepting Healthcare providers.
- Trans Resistance Network // A US-based mutual aid organization to help trans people facing state violence and legal discrimination.
- TLDEF's Trans Health Project // Advice about insurance claims for gender affirming healthcare and procedures.
- TransLifeLine's ID change Library // A comprehensive guide to changing your name on any US legal document.
- Gender Spectrum // Resources for youth, parents and family, educators, mental health professionals and faith leaders.
Support Hotlines:
- The Trevor Project // Web chat, phone call, and text message LGBTQ+ support hotline.
- TransLifeLine // A US/Canada LGBTQ+ phone support hotline service. The US line has Spanish support.
- LGBT Youthline.ca // A Canadian LGBT hotline support service with phone call and web chat support. (4pm - 9:30pm EST)
- 988lifeline // A US only Crisis hotline with phone call, text and web chat support. Dedicated staff for LGBTQIA+ youth 24/7 on phone service, 3pm to 2am EST for text and web chat.
Woah, that's a lot of info! Thank you!
I really love Shea Moisture products. About once a week, a very weak mix of bicarb and filtered water to break down left-over product, and a few tbsp of Bragg's acv, a dollop of raw honey and filtered water, shaken well, as a rinse. Acv seals the cuticle and adds gloss, honey conditions. You can still condition after. I couldn't see the pic, got an error message, but I've heard good things about https://lusterproducts.com/products/wave-jel-activator s curl activator, but not tried it, yet. Anything Shea Moisture has worked well for me. Right now, I need a cut and style, and haven't been styling and it's very humid, so my hair is very unruly!
Cool, Shea Moisture seems to be available where I am - I'll check it out!
YES, I was hoping that link was the CG doc!! This is the way!
Also consider asking your barber what kind of hair you have (thick, fine, voluminous, etc.), bc it can make a huge difference on what it needs. For example using conditioner as shampoo (co-washing) does amazing things for some people, but it can cause scalp buildup in thicker hair.
SheaMoisture is my go-to brand. Their conditioner is so concentrated you almost have to water it down, I keep an empty bottle around and do 50/50.
Proper haircare depends on your hair. The previously posted link is a good resource. It is obvious when someone grows their hair out for the first time without knowing how to care for it.
Basic advice would probably be, wash your hair with shampoo but not every day, use a conditioner, but don't rinse it off immediately it needs time to condition, and brush your hair with a brush starting from the ends moving up.