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[–] [email protected] 12 points 3 months ago

If you are between a 6-8, and it's not already a habit for you, go brush your teeth.

I know it probably sounds lame. Like, it's obviously not a replacement for therapy, and you might think that the advice will be ineffective, is dismissive to your situation, or whatever. But a tiny intentional act of self care can go a long way to making you feel better.

If I hadn't heard that advice before, I'm pretty sure I wouldn't be here to share it. So go brush your teeth and know that I'm rooting for you.

[–] Etterra 8 points 4 months ago (1 children)

#5 is me since I was about 7.

[–] KnitWit 3 points 4 months ago

Haha, yeah as soon as I got to 5 I thought there’s where the baseline has been since childhood.

[–] yokonzo 8 points 3 months ago

I was actively at a 6 for many years. A lot of my family used to make fun of me because I would never buy a gun, saying stuff like "oh are you against gun ownership or something?"

It took a lot to not snap at them "no I love guns but if I owned one I know it would one day end up pointed at my temple"

Now I have a girlfriend and while life's still hard, I don't have those thoughts anymore. Still won't buy a gun though

[–] bestagon 7 points 4 months ago (1 children)

Oh I thought I was normal. Turns out baseline is 4/5 and most of last week was spent in 8 only snapped out of by a 2 day

[–] ocassionallyaduck 8 points 4 months ago

No joke here, I just sincerely hope you can reach out in some manner and speak with anyone you trust, or a professional.

[–] Metz 6 points 4 months ago* (last edited 4 months ago)

I'm between #5 and #6 my whole life. As far back as I can remember. More often going to #8 lately.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 3 months ago (1 children)

I'm about at a 9, but I learned a long time ago my friends will distance themselves from me if I say anything that might imply the fact.

[–] yokonzo 4 points 3 months ago (1 children)

Those are not your friends then. How are you feeling as of this moment? Is it bearable?

[–] [email protected] 4 points 3 months ago

People can only take so much drama from others before they need to distance themselves for their own wellbeing. I feel no distress or fear. Two years of an abusive relationship followed by a high dose of psychedelics burned most of my self-preservation out a year ago. I have a little under a week left unless something changes. I'm quietly getting my affairs in order.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Huh. High point days is a 5, otherwise baseline about 6 through 8.5 (have a list of plans, research, modalities, but haven't made any steps)

Kinda nice to have a chart that I can point at and go "Yup, I'm here."

[–] [email protected] 3 points 3 months ago

Going from a 9.5 to a 4-5 basically takes going scorched earth on your old life and rebuilding it.