Yes. If I forgot someone's name after meeting them it would be like me saying "you're not important enough to me to remember your name." It's especially insulting when you think about how many people you meet once and do remember their name.
this post was submitted on 02 Jun 2024
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It really depends on the context. A business associate or colleague, it's a bad look, but a personal acquaintance is usually no big deal. I often reintroduce myself to people socially, and admit I've forgotten their names. Sometimes it's more awkward if we've known each other a while, and maybe I covered forgetting too many times and it would be weird to admit it this far into our "friendship."
In a professional setting, not only does it make people feel important, but it also makes you seem smarter. Remembering details, birthdays, family members, and other personal conversation topics is a sales technique taught in business school. Admitting you've forgotten someone's name may even come off as a power move. Mind games like that wre disturbingly common.
Toooatally depends.
How did we meet? Was it at a bar during a bar crawl, and I was one of 9 people you were quickly introduced to?
You not remembering is a 0/10 faux pas.
It's a wedding. I'm a groomsman. Idk any of the other groomsmen. I forget one of their names (let's say there's 3 others): 2.5/10
Let's say the all forget mine: 4/10
We went to college together. It's been 15 years. We had some of the same friends but didn't ever exchange numbers, despite being in relative close proximity for the better part of a year.
You not remembering is 5/10 faux pas.
Those same groomsmen have forgotten my name for 2 days in a row. 7.5/10.
I am your ex's former room mate. He's your ex because we hooked up. Y'all dated for like 6 years.
You not remembering is probably a psychological measure of protection, but is also a 8/10 faux pas.
I am the father of your child. We have are married. We have a house in our name together.
You not remembering is a 11/10 faux pas.
Hope this helps 🙂
My name is Hubert Blaine Wolfeschlegelsteinhausenbergerdorff.
You better remember it and pronounce it properly!
It's great to meet you H.B.W. - can I call you buh-dubs (like the Netflix jingle) for short?
I had a brain fart when talking to a new coworker and couldn’t remember her name. She was very attractive, and this had clearly never happened to her before. She became very agitated and upset about it. (She wasn’t a b*tch or anything, just unaware of the benefits she got from being pretty.)
I was always nice and respectful to her, but for the rest of our time working together, I continued forgetting her name and it drove her nuts.