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Which side of the bed is the left side? Is the answer based on the perspective of laying in the bed (person's head at the head end)? Is the answer based on viewing it from the foot of the bed, looking at the head of the bed? Is there an "anatomical position" or special terminology like in boating for this?

For context: My boyfriend and I can't agree on this. We change who gets which side based on the shoulder we'd predominantly sleep on and how it's feeling. This let's us get good cuddles before shoulder pain gets irritated. He comes to bed after me. A while back he asked what side I'm sleeping on. I said "left". Later that night, he comes in and almost lays directly on me because he claims "left" is the other side. Since then we have to describe which side using complicated descriptions.

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[โ€“] UnPassive 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

To avoid confusion, just say driver and passenger side.

I meant this to be a joke, but if you assume your bed drives forward toward the side with your pillows then it actually works. But if you read in bed with a reading pillow then I guess you probably want to drive your bed toward your feet side of the bed...

[โ€“] Mostly_Harmless_Variant 2 points 6 months ago

Driver and passenger side confuses me more because of your last point. It's backwards. But it still needs to be named foot of the bed and not head because it's where it feet go. So your first point also makes sense. Both are right and wrong at the same time

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago)

Obviously the perspective of lying on the bed face-up. Though I may be biased because our bed is next to the window (feet side) so you can't look at it form the foot of the bed -- either from the side or behind our heads

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (2 children)

Imagine you are driving the bed. If you lean up you're looking forward. You could call them driver and passenger side based on this. Sort of like port and starboard lol.

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago

Imagine you are driving the bed

actually quite enjoyable, ty!

[โ€“] [email protected] 3 points 6 months ago (1 children)

but that would make beds the other way around in some countries

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

It is left as an exercise for the bed users who are from countries which drive on different side of the roads to determine their own phrasing.

[โ€“] FMT99 2 points 6 months ago

My girlfriend lies on my right arm, so she's on the right side of the bed and I'm on the left.

[โ€“] foggy 2 points 6 months ago* (last edited 6 months ago) (1 children)

If the bed stood up and was personified, the feet would be at the foot, the head would be at the head.

It's left would be to your right.

If it has a head and a foot, we should follow suit through and through. Consistency trumps all else in this argument. There exists precedent.

"Driver Side" is "Left" though it is on the right if you're standing at the foot of the bed.

Case closed.

[โ€“] Mostly_Harmless_Variant 1 points 6 months ago

If a bed stood up, a mattress would be the belly and the perspective would be that of laying on it on your back.

Now I'm also thinking about the "drivers side" argument. This would change depending on the country you're in while using the bed.

[โ€“] cobysev 2 points 6 months ago (2 children)

If I'm talking about sides of the bed, I'm almost never in the bed at the same time, so I would be talking from a position at the foot of the bed. Beds are practically never in the middle of the room, so I wouldn't be standing over the head of the bed while orienting. So the foot of the bed is the default position to reference.

If I'm in bed and talking about sides, I usually just guesture and say, "this side" (or "your/my side" if I'm talking to my wife) instead of designating left or right.

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[โ€“] Professorozone 2 points 6 months ago

I have no idea. Like others I usually request the side closest to the bathroom since I go during the night more often than her. I could see it either way.

[โ€“] [email protected] 2 points 6 months ago

Lie in bed on your back. Stick out your left hand. That is the left side of the bed. Stick out your right hand. That is the right side of the bed.

Completely arbitrary.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago

Where is the head and foot of the bed? Where are the top and the bottom? If the bed were stood up on the foot, is the top the front or the back? These questions may have something to do with the answer or are completely meaningless.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago (1 children)

"Complicated descriptions"? Is there a lamp on one side, or a closet door? Just use that as a frame of reference, I wouldn't call that a complicated description. Or, if you usually have the same bigs-poon, little-spoon orientation, you can describe which shoulder you're laying on. But I still think using features of the room is the simplest way. "I'm laying on the closet side."

[โ€“] Mostly_Harmless_Variant 2 points 6 months ago

Fair point. Complicated descriptions may have an exaggeration, but relative to simply left/right it's still mildly accurate. I'm not a sensory thinker so pulling from objects other than what I'm referencing seems like adding a few extra cognitive steps. Silly, I'm aware, but that's my brain.

[โ€“] [email protected] 1 points 6 months ago
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