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I would like to know if there is an "official" way to set an account as disabled. For now, I am plan on posting this on Asklemmy, changing my password to some random string that I won't remember, and then logging out. If I'd like to come back later, there's a chance of my account being revived through the "forgot password" process.

I am leaving Lemmy for good. I have spent a few months here, and the first few months were nice and positive. But now it feels much more Reddit-like. Most active communication here is happening at posts that I find negative. All this negative stuff is detoriating my mental health. I'd instead prefer to stay happy and remain ignorant until I personally experience the issues being raised here.Β 

Of course, a lot of people will disagree with this approach, and they are likely already coming up with comments to post on this thread that I'd find rude and thus negative. But I've seriously had enough of it.

I have a heavily filtered Reddit with a home page filled with people like me. The communities they are part of either don't exist on Lemmy or are not sufficiently active. I will be active with these people until the old Reddit front-end reaches EoL. Please prefer to answer the first paragraph over the rest.

PS: please don't judge me by my comments on my profile. I am a teenager and my personality is still maturing. I cringe at most things I do the next day after doing them.

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[–] [email protected] 32 points 5 months ago (1 children)

Just stop using it? Eesh. No need for the drama, just walk away.

[–] [email protected] 21 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago) (1 children)

Of course, a lot of people will disagree with this approach

There is not a single person here who is going to talk you out of leaving lmao, whether you stay or go affects no one but you. That being said, you're a teen and you're choosing to leave a social media platform due to mental health reasons. That's quite far from being a bad thing. You're doing what's best for you and that's good shit. You've matured further than you think.

Every Lemmy account will have a Delete Account option located at the bottom of the main page of your settings, not sure if it's automated or if an admin has to go in to clear em out manually, but trigger it, log out and you're set!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 5 months ago

talk youΒ outΒ of leaving

I guess that’s what he want

[–] [email protected] 16 points 5 months ago

As they say, you're not a train or plane, you don't need to announce your departure. I do completely get your complaint about the negativity here, though, it's... a lot. Wanting some distance from that because it's a bummer is perfectly reasonable.

Best of luck in the future.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 5 months ago

Just to let you know, the whole thing where you look back on every little thing you do and cringe won't magically go away when you're an adult.

That's a self-esteem thing, not a teenager thing.

I guess what I'm saying is that this is one of those things that can get better, but won't just magically get better on its own. It didn't get better for me until I got some control in my physical health (stuff that would affect my perspective) and took agency in my mental health.

If you're in the situation to do so, check out what kind of therapy resources are available to you. You can just try a bunch until you find one that really clicks, and a lot offer free brief consultations.
Many employers offer 4-10 free visits for any immediate family members/offspring, too!

I'm sorry you feel so critical of yourself all the time. Its so draining to live like that.

[–] [email protected] 12 points 5 months ago

Sounds like the solution you are looking for is self control. Nothing but yourself can stop you from just making another account.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago* (last edited 5 months ago)

To delete an account harken ye

This helpful list of steps three

First upon a color vote

And painteth thy blazon upon thy boat

Hence wilt thou gather thy bow

And find a river quick of flow

Reach heights to raise thy personhood

And aim with care thou ever should

Quickly light thy arrow aflame

And watch the cinders of your fame

Once these steps you have obeyed

No trace of you shall be betrayed

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago

Pretty sure there is a way to delete an account. Just look in the profile setting.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 5 months ago

I find it interesting that people can have so very different experiences on this network.

Anyway, to delete your user, you'll probably need to do it in a browser instead of through an app. Login to your instance feddit.nl through a browser.

The "hamburger" menu in the top right. Click your username. Choose settings. Scroll down. Delete user.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 5 months ago

There's no way to stop yourself from making a new account

If you really have no self control might be worth getting someone else to put a password on the app (assuming you use it on mobile)

There are browser extensions that can block time wasting sites for you but you'll always be able to disable them

But hey you could always just start being horrendously racist until someone bans you

[–] [email protected] 5 points 5 months ago

Yeah, leaving lemmy for reddit is one of the worst ideas I have ever heard. Leaving social media all together and even going out more would be a great idea though.

In any case, good luck to you. The steps to delete your account have been mentioned plenty so Iβ€˜ll not repeat that.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago

git gud scrub! sorry I hate to not meet peoples expectations.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 5 months ago
[–] [email protected] 2 points 5 months ago

Hey, can I pm you to ask about these like minded comms? Because I think similarly somewhat and wondered where to find places.