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[–] [email protected] 52 points 9 months ago (3 children)

You on the same Lemmy as I am?

[–] [email protected] 23 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (2 children)

Yeah I really don't understand how people have a such a bad experience on here. I think I have had one asshole who argued with me, in over seven months spent here. And even that guy was mostly just condescending as fuck instead of outright throwing insults. Everyone else is just the normal kind of argumentative that I am myself as well.

[–] Cruxifux 11 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Yeah honestly the people at Lemmy are mostly great.

I think the difference is that the people on Lemmy seem in general to be smarter than other places, generally people actually seem to want to discuss rather than argue.

Not that there aren’t dumb assholes on Lemmy. I mean, I’m here.

[–] whoreticulture 4 points 9 months ago (11 children)

To me it just means people are more eloquent about their transphobia or their rationalization of genocide 🙄

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[–] [email protected] 10 points 9 months ago

Second this

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

with full respect, probably not lmao. :) lemmy is small but there’s a lot of diversity of activity going on.

i mean fuck it, your instance name is literally yiffit.net. best not call into question other people’s expression of lived experience without evidence 👍

[–] [email protected] 27 points 9 months ago (2 children)

I've seen this without the slur, but it's still weird that people are out here trying to redefine specific, well-defined, unambiguous, basic, and universal English terms. Not as a metaphor, not even as a bit, or attempted point (luckily, as it wouldn't have been a good one), just using a term in a way apparently nobody else ever does.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I was discussing with somebody about privilege IRL. They told me they didn't believe the word "privilege" existed. I was like do you want to use a different word? They were like no, the word and concept just doesn't exist.

I'm very sure this person was just an idiot and didn't have malicious intent. But still, wow.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

out of fairness, they might have had malicious intent (edit missed that this was IRL, my bad. this comment probably doesn’t apply to your situation apologies. leaving it up with this disclaimer as i think it’s valuable)

language has a lot of power. the ability to accurately describe one’s condition and identity is absolutely required in order for organization, and therefore change, to happen.

that’s why conservatives get so worked up over gender pronouns and words like “cisgender.” they are well aware that a community that is denied language to describe itself is nothing more than a set of individuals.

if you deny the word “privilege” then you deny by extension the word “unprivileged” and then you are left without a word for the millions of people lacking basic education, income, housing etc to describe themselves.

(im vaguely aware this was the plot to that one george orwell novel)

[–] RGB3x3 8 points 9 months ago

"One must live in a privileged position to believe privilege does not exist."

— Me, just now.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 9 months ago

yes! thank you for this analysis.

besides the casual bigotry, the wanton disregard for useful semantics is exactly what i wanted to call out as it seems especially unique to internet spaces.

[–] Mr_Blott 25 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Comment - (This) would solve a lot of problems for millions of people

Lemmy user - Yes but I've thought of an incredibly niche situation where that would negatively affect one person in ten million so you're just pure unadulterated evil

[–] [email protected] 6 points 9 months ago

many such cases 🤕

slur

[–] [email protected] 18 points 9 months ago (3 children)

„Why would you use it like that?“

„It made sense to me, sorry if that was wrong.“

Slur

Is how I perceive it.

[–] [email protected] 11 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Why would you think like that? No one on the internet (especially OP) would apologize for potentially being wrong smh.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Yeah, you’re probably right :)

[–] [email protected] 7 points 9 months ago
[–] ObviouslyNotBanana 7 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Tbh that's been my experience as well. Either that or:

"Why would you use it like that?"

"What do you mean? I just used it the same way you did to confirm that I agree with you"

*slur*

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Oh yeah, the default assumption that any reply must be disagreeing with you is exhausting

[–] ObviouslyNotBanana 2 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

Why would you say that? I think it's exhausting and you come here to question me! *slur*

Just kidding. Yeah, it is. Thankfully it doesn't happen that often.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

honestly it can go either way 👍

[–] [email protected] 16 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (1 children)

Lemmy Pro Tip: After 2 replies you can usually tell if the conversation is going anywhere productive. If it's not, then tell them as such in your 3rd reply, wish them a pleasant day, and move on with your life.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago

2? That's generous of you. I give 1 chance.

[–] ObviouslyNotBanana 13 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 11 points 9 months ago (2 children)
[–] ObviouslyNotBanana 13 points 9 months ago (1 children)

that's not what that word means

[–] [email protected] 9 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] ObviouslyNotBanana 10 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 10 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] ObviouslyNotBanana 9 points 9 months ago (1 children)

well why would you do that

[–] [email protected] 12 points 9 months ago (1 children)

English is my second language, thank you for the opportunity to learn and I hope you have a wonderful day

[–] ObviouslyNotBanana 11 points 9 months ago (1 children)
[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago (2 children)

excuse me ☝️ slur does not apply to me as an individual. please use my preferred minority anatagonistic: Slur.

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[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

are we just going to sign every message with slur now?

slur

[–] [email protected] 3 points 9 months ago

no that would be ridiculous

~slur~

[–] poplargrove 13 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) (4 children)

I'll be damned if I ever hear a slur on here.

[–] [email protected] 9 points 9 months ago
[–] [email protected] 4 points 9 months ago

I mostly read them on here

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago)

ITT: people telling me im lying for some reason?

literally check the modlog. people involve language used against minority groups all the time and unfortunately it gets left up for hours sometimes

edit: genuinely why are people downvoting this lol? proof

[–] BallsandBayonets 10 points 9 months ago (1 children)

Everything has happened before, everything will happen again. Shit people aren't a fault of reddit, or facebook, or whatever will come after lemmy. Shit people will always be.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 9 months ago

beautiful follow up poem. i concur.

[–] [email protected] 8 points 9 months ago (2 children)

I’ve not experienced this. I’m not sure why it’s interesting to talk shit this way.

[–] victorz 5 points 9 months ago

Never ran into this either... I'm glad it's not happened yet. 😐

[–] foggy 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)

I have someone tagged as 'argued home v house; is twat' to remind me they started an argument that boiled down to them not agreeing that a house is equal to a home, and at that point I think I told him to sit on a cucumber, downvotes him, and tagged him so I know never to engage with the twat again.

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[–] NightAuthor 3 points 9 months ago (1 children)

This is how many conversations with my wife end

[–] Noodle07 2 points 9 months ago (1 children)
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