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I was crossing a crosswalk early this morning on my way to the bus stop for work, while the walk sign was on, and the driver turned left onto a main road from a stop light and smashed into my left side. I was later told that I "flew up into the air".

It was all very much a blur and I was pretty dizzy and out of it at first, but no head trauma. Some kind lady who said she was a nurse ran to help me up and to the side of the road, and the cops and ambulance came pretty fast (I think, at least).

I was taken to the hospital and was told that I fractured my humerus head (left shoulder). They told me I may not need surgery, but we'll see what the orthopedic surgeon says during my follow-up appointment in a few days. Other than that, I just have a bunch of scrapes and bruises.

Overall, while I'm in quite a bit of pain, I'm grateful because it could've been way worse. My SO and parents are pushing to sue for pain/suffering, which I was hesitant to do until I read (online) that I wouldn't be suing the person who hit me, but their insurance company), so I guess that'll probably happen. They already found me a lawyer.

I truly have no ill-will toward that person because shit happens, it was dark, and they got out of the car immediately to call 911, so it's not like they didn't do what was right when it came down to it. I'm sure they're traumatized, and that their insurance payment will go way up... which I feel a little bad about given the state of the US rn. But I guess I don't have any control over that.

Honestly, while the whole thing was obviously pretty traumatic for me, too—and I keep replaying that moment in my head—I think I'd rather get hit by a car than hit someone with my car.

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[–] BonesOfTheMoon 4 points 8 months ago

Omigod I'm sorry! Hope you recover. That's super traumatic. Please be gentle with yourself!

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago)

This is wholesome af. Get your bag and don't sweat the insurance company.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago (2 children)

I was run over at 6 years old.

We didn't sue.

Canada.

[–] MeanEYE 3 points 8 months ago

Also back then you didn't have SUV with size and weight of a freight truck and a flat surface in front. These days I think it's less traumatic if someone just walks out of car and shoots you. You have higher chances of surviving.

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[–] BananaTrifleViolin 3 points 8 months ago (3 children)

You got hit by a car and your parents and SO already found a lawyer? I support the idea but I seems pretty quick - I guess people deal with stress in different ways, and it was their way of helping "fix the problem".

I hope you're OK, the whole thing sounds traumatic. The flash backs should ease but if they don't, do think about getting support in the coming days or weeks to help you process what you've been through. Hope you're feeling better soon!

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[–] [email protected] 1 points 8 months ago (1 children)

How are you doing now, OP?

[–] lady_maria 2 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Thanks for asking! Right now I'm still just waiting around; I need surgery because of the nature of the break and its interference with my rotator cuff, but I need an MRI/follow-up before it can be scheduled. So it won't be until at least the 23rd.

I had some deep-tissue bruises that hurt even more than my shoulder for a while, which made it hard to walk, but they finally mostly healed.

My shoulder isn't too bad if I don't move it, but it actually hurts a lot more than usual this morning. The doctor only gave me a few of the weakest non-OTC painkillers you can get, so I've had to ration them for when the pain is at its worst. So I'm relying on acetaminophen and ibuprofen, which doesn't really cut it tbh.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 7 months ago* (last edited 7 months ago) (1 children)

Well, I'm sorry about the travesty called the United States "'healthcare' 'system'" and waiting around, and I'm actually not being at all sarcastic when I say that, sadly. I do a lot of waiting around myself, for the same reason. I have chronic pain and I already rely on acetaminophen and ibuprofen because of that, and if I'd ended up with the exact same injury, I would've needed something stronger than Tylenol III and more than a few of them. I'm really sorry they did that to you; that's literally cruel, I think. You don't have chronic pain; you have acute pain because you got hit by a car. I'd think they'd understand that and/or care.

EDIT: let me rephrase something, sorry. I don't know if you have chronic pain or not, and I'm not trying to speculate. The point I was trying to make is that you got hit by a car, and that they should treating you with compassion instead of functionally punishing you for everything the driver did wrong. I already know I'm gonna get downvoted for saying that and I already don't care. I'm really sorry this is happening to you.

[–] lady_maria 2 points 7 months ago

Thank you! I appreciate it. I don't really have particularly severe chronic pain, but my SO does, so I'm familiar with how hard it can be to get serious pain relief and how horribly frustrating that can be.

imo, it's cruel whether the pain is chronic or acute. I guess I get why they're so stingy, but there needs to be a lot more grace for pain patients. It's not just about pain, but mental health, too. :/

I was definitely a little surprised and annoyed about it. Clearly there's no questioning the fact that I'll be in significant pain for (at minimum) a month, so why are you giving me only 6 days' worth? Are decent scripts reserved for only the people who are literally on their death bed???

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