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"Men are bad at picking up on women's hints." What are your actual thoughts on this sentiment? (self.casualconversation)

submitted 9 months ago* (last edited 9 months ago) by FatTony to c/casualconversation

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Either through memes or comments I keep seeing this sentiment pop-up from time to time. And I'm wondering what your (yes, you) consensus is on it.

I for one am too pessimistic to do anything with potential hints. Like even if there is a good chance I still just don't want to risk it.

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[–] [email protected] 5 points 9 months ago (2 children)

Even worse, the men who figure things out tend to find a good partner and pair up, taking them out of the pool.

Why does this get an 'even worse' qualifier?

[–] cynar 16 points 9 months ago

Because it leaves the blind leading the blind, leading to really stupid ideas getting too much traction. Both in being too aggressive, and being too passive. Neither work well.

It also creates a biased pool, which helps fuel the really negative views of women.

It's the same effect as happens in weight loss groups. Those who succeed tend to move on. Those that hang around and gain "authority" tend to have failings.

Don't get me wrong, it's a good thing for the people involved, but bad for those left.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 9 months ago

https://www.joelonsoftware.com/2005/01/27/news-58/

This is about only hiring the top 0.5% of software engineers, but it applies to dating too! The people in the pool the longest are the least attractive.