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[–] [email protected] 52 points 8 months ago (4 children)

Ahahaha me (Shy Girl) saving up years' worth of confidence to overcome anxiety, but waste it ALL on someone who mentions their s/o 30 seconds into the conversation. Every. Single. Time x.X

[–] ax_xa 46 points 8 months ago

It’s not wasted, it’s practice!

Don’t let that part of your brain that wants to inhibit you win on this one. You tried, but the dude wasn’t available, so it doesn’t even count! Now you get to try again!

[–] LemmyKnowsBest 16 points 8 months ago (1 children)

every single time? This happened to me once 10 years ago and I've never recovered. There was just the one attempt.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago

Well you know, sometimes you meet people and there's a chemistry, and you're maybe not sure what kind it is.

Before I can advance my interest, I discover they're off the market anyway. More friendzoning than formal rejection. Not that I mind having friends.

[–] [email protected] 14 points 8 months ago

Rejection is a huge win.

Rejection means you tried!

Seek endorphins from the “no” (or the “I have a borlfriend”), if you can… they give you a pat on the back. Feel a little guilty when you waste opportunities, and have to wonder what if I’d asked.

Certain rejection over possible yet unknown acceptance! :)

[–] Mango 6 points 8 months ago

I don't think confidence is like an expendable juice.

The secret is to get really good at a particular thing IMO.