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Coming out stories? (lemmy.blahaj.zone)

submitted 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) by [email protected] to c/[email protected]

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Hiya ladies,

With my hair growing, nails manicured, and eyebrows shaped, it's going to become harder and harder to boymode inconspicuously around family or friends (only my partner knows). On the other side of that, I'm nowhere near passing or even presenting femme in public, which makes the idea of coming out quite scary as they're seeing masculinity when I'm declaring femininity.

Part of me wants to wait like two years and then one day suddenly appear as my new completely feminine (hopefully beautiful!) self without any warning or advance notice! So people see the best version of myself, rather than seeing the mid-transition mess I am right now (or pre-transition mess I was!). But realistically I know that's not gonna work!

So I'd love to hear some coming out stories and when in your transition you decided it was right for you! And how those you came out to responded, if you're comfortable sharing that!

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[–] [email protected] 12 points 8 months ago (1 children)

The whole "vanish for a couple years and show back up as a woman" appeals so much... I just don't think I could do that to my mother. The rest of my family I couldn't care less but I would feel guilty not involving her.

Maybe in a couple years, some therapy for anxiety, and a different job, I'll think about coming out. No HRT anytime soon, family and personal history of growing/developing EXTREMELY fast I get the feeling it would out me within months haha

For now, hair removal and some comfy clothes to wear at home is my goal. Found an electrolysis place nearby that does roughly $85 an hour (no matter what I've wanted permanent hair removal "down there" since it started growing.) Maybe laser to greatly thin out bulk body hair.

Was supposed to get some pretty (over knee and thigh high) socks delivered today but something went wrong; supposedly were delivered, but i think they went to the wrong place 😥

[–] [email protected] 9 points 8 months ago (2 children)

They were delivered to me by mistake, I am keeping them. 😈

[–] [email protected] 7 points 8 months ago

Evil hahaha

[–] [email protected] 4 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

Well, they got here! USPS scanned them as delivered a day early 😑 Definitely feels nice to have something skin tight on my entire leg, but I very much prefer the texture and thickness of my wool socks from Darn Tough. But they sure look good! Some standard black/gray programmer socks, and these (which are a liiiittle tight around the feet but otherwise nice)

https://sockdreams.com/products/foxy-over-the-knee-socks?variant=44684107022631

[–] [email protected] 3 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Cute!

[–] [email protected] 2 points 8 months ago

They really are!! It's nice to look down and see the adorable little sleepy fox faces! Wish they were a liiiiittle bit bigger but that's just the thunder calves and super wide (6E) feet messing with the fit. Just barely comes over my knee.