I've been happily posting away here on two accounts since just before the Great Migration, and have no problem being openly a woman on the internet. Up to and including correcting people who assume I'm a guy, and even occasionally acknowledging the existence of periods.

Which, honestly that was a bad tactic back on Reddit, my inbox was a nightmare. But here it's gone much better, so thank you to anyone who ever received one of my corrections with good grace!

It's also brought quite a few DMs my way from other women who try to stay more anonymous with their posts, a choice I can completely understand.

So today on International Women's Day I just want to wave hello to the other women out there, even if you don't want to break cover and wave back. Anonymous or not, cis or trans, I see you out there and you're killing it.

This may break the community rule on encouraging discussion, if nobody wants to out themselves to say hello back. So I guess I should also ask a question.

Um...anyone else using it as an excuse to treat themselves today? I've given myself the day (mostly) off work and am doing some fun gamedev all afternoon instead, then we're planning a takeaway tonight. Easily pleased, perhaps, but sounds good to me 😄

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[–] dabu 19 points 8 months ago (3 children)

I don't want to invoke any negative memories but my curiosity is unsatisfied - what the hell do these guys PMed you about? We're all anonymous on Lemmy and Reddit, nobody knows how we look or where are we from and yet publicly stating your own gender is enough to open the floodgates. It is baffling to me. Don't feel obliged to answer of course if that's a problem.

Going back to the topic - hello! I used today's running routine excuse to treat myself with some sweet snacks. Unfortunately I didn't pick the best ones so I'm left unsatisfied and with a thought that I exceeded my limit. Next time I guess.

[–] [email protected] 13 points 8 months ago

To this day it baffles me too! But let's just say general grossness and leave it at that :D

Well done on actually doing the running! I'm supposed to be using part of this afternoon to go for a long walk as well as doing the gamedev stuff, but so far all I've managed is hanging out on Lemmy. Oops!

I can honestly feel the disappointment of a poor sweet choice from here. Nothing worse than feeling like you've earned it only to "waste" the opportunity. You have my express sympathy.

[–] AFKBRBChocolate 7 points 8 months ago

As a guy with a wife and adult daughter who are active online, I just don't get it either. My daughter was playing MMO games when she was little and I often had to take her keyboard and say, "Dude, she's 7!" when guys would PM her really sexual stuff. She ended up just making characters with gender neutral names to reduce it. That's from guys who know zero other than their gender. My wife gets all sorts of replies that are about her being a woman and nothing to do with the things she said. It makes no sense.

I'm so glad to hear Lemmy is better! I hope it continues to be a place where our interactions are based on our ideas and not our bodies.

[–] [email protected] -4 points 8 months ago* (last edited 8 months ago) (1 children)

I remember being a male teenager long time ago and the brain just screams about sex all the time.

That's probably why some of the less evolved men out there starts pm-ing any lady they see.

Just getting a response is of some value appearently.

Then you get older and realize girls are evil so they lose their attraction. Lol. Mostly kidding.

[–] [email protected] 19 points 8 months ago (1 children)

Lol. Mostly kidding.

[–] [email protected] -1 points 8 months ago

Lol :)