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If you're functioning, what are people supposed to do?
If you're suffering from a medical issue that's for a medical professional, not your coworker/neighbor
Like, not minimizing the condition, or the experience of the individual. But a society can only hope to react to issues if they perceive the issue. If you are functioning and achieving in society, there are no signals.
Further, it wouldn't be appropriate for your coworker or similar to get involved in your healthcare.
I think there are signs we’ve been conditioned to overlook as a society though. Parent seems frazzled and exhausted? Well that’s just part of parenting. And yes, it’s hard to know if it’s “regular” tiredness or something more. But if a friend has a cough and it’s not going away, we’d tell them they should see a doctor.
There is some kind of “timeframe” for physical symptoms where most of us would tell the other person to get it checked out. But we as a society haven’t learned that same kind of timeframe for mental health stuff. Hopefully now that we’re becoming more aware of all the ways things like ADHD and autism can show up, we’ll start noticing when those around us are struggling. Even better, maybe we should all get at least annual mental health checks like we do for our bodies, teeth and eyes.
I agree with the sentiment - co-workers should not be knowledgeable of one's health requirements.
The problem is that there is no option to break from the race. Even if we are wheezy, we must run yet.
For real, also an appeal to victim status coming from a successful doctor doesn't hit quite the same.
So you somehow think doctors don't have to deal with mental struggles?
We all got problems. I'm just having a little trouble mustering too much sympathy for this highly successful individual.
Well as an adult that went a long time before my diagnosis, I can tell you that if you understood what it was like to live like that, you'd have no problems mustering sympathy.
Hell, I'm as 'eat the rich' as anyone else here but it doesn't matter how externally successful you appear if you feel miserable inside all the time.