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Could be ADHD. The idea of a new relationship and the dopamine from the chase and the victory would be relatively short-lived, and their brain would naturally start seeking out its next hit.
That's a really distorted view of what ADHD is.
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I’ve been diagnosed with ADHD since I was fourteen. I am now thirty. I’ve done my research to manage my condition and have come across this; and even more, I have experienced this very thing. It is not the whole picture, certainly, and as ADHD is a spectrum, it will not be present in all of us; but it is not an uncommon symptom; and it’s basically what I could pull from the post without making assumptions about anon’s other characteristics.
I have diagnosed ADHD and I relate to it
Do you have anything to back that up? Hypersexuality, which I'd argue the OC describes, is a common symptom of ADHD
The description of hypersexuality in your link doesn't match losing interest in a partner as soon as there is familiarity. If anything, hypersexuality leads to wanting more sexual activity than their partner. That can contribute to fidelity issues, but that's not the same as losing interest as soon as they get together.
ADHD doesn't mean you can only be interested in novel things. People with ADHD tend to be impulsive and have trouble controlling how much attention they can allocate to each subject. They can still hold particular interests for years and decades.
The only argument for the behavior in the OC being attributable to ADHD, is that maybe they are compulsively jumping into relationships before finding out if they have any compatibility with the other person. So it's not that ADHD made them lose interest immediately, it's that they acted on impulse and started a relationship prematurely only to find out that they never liked the other person for more than their appearance. But that's too much extrapolation for what is actually written.
The problem with armchair psychologist is that every bad trait is linked to ADHD and every good thing is explained as muh dopamine. It's rather annoying.
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Not it's actually a know issue with people with ADHD. I've experienced this feeling and wondered what's wrong with me. It sometimes takes therapy and time recognize real love and partnership versus the dopamine of someone new caring for you.
It's also not exactly untrue, either.
Also have ADHD and relate to this massively.