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I mean, they/we also could create these spaces for us, much in the same way women did (and many other groups). And of course it's easier to fall for reactionary groups when liberal groups are less visible, but it's still a decision to follow their bullshit.
Shoutout to [email protected] (and similar spaces)
We had these spaces, they were accused of sexism, and forced to open up to everyone, where the female spaces stayed all female. Boyscouts and Girlscouts comes to mind as an example.
The issue is that these spaces are often prime trolling grounds, and you end up having the same discussions over and over until the honest posters move on and only trolls are left.
Which is why the heavily moderated menslib sub on Reddit was so great, because they didn't put up with that BS.
Agreed. Unfortunately, Lemmy has both design choices and cultural issues that make running heavily moderated communities essentially impossible.
As soon as men try to organize and speak out we get called sexist. If men wanted to start a men only club like women are allowed they would be forced to let women in. Just look at the boy scouts (ignoring the pedophiles) they were forced to allow girls but the girl scouts don't have to allow boys. Males can't have anything male only.
That's simply not true. We have at least one counselling centre in our city that is "boys/young men only" and several "men only" self help groups. I've never heard them being called sexist, on the contrary people generally agree that this is a good thing and we need more of this. And they are certainly not forced to include other genders.
There are obviously not enough initiatives like these. But a blanket statement like yours is false and if you make the claim that men are regularly getting called out as sexist for forming liberal safe spaces you should provide some sources (I'm not denying that it happens, it's just not something I've experienced).
The goal of boy scouts wasn't to provide a safe space to explore gender identity or emotions or anything like that. There was no reason to exclude other genders.
Is that the goal of girl scouts, though?
I don't think so.
What are you trying to say? I don't know that much about Scouting in the U.S. At least in Germany we didn't have this gender divide in scouting, but as GSUSA were founded after the BSA I suspect that their goal was to provide scouting for girls because they couldn't join BSA.
The other guy said men can't have man-only spaces, referring to Boy Scouts in contrast to Girl Scouts, and you said that Boy Scouts isn't supposed to be a safe space to explore gender identity or emotions. If Girl Scouts isn't that kind of thing either, then that sounds like you think men only get to have that kind of man-only space, while women can have whatever.
As a man, if the only man-only spaces available were about gender identity or emotions, I'd probably go to neither. The former because I'm fully comfortable as a man (and the use of the term "gender identity" there implies it's more for trans people,) and the latter because I don't have significant issues with my emotions. Frankly, I don't really mind that most of the clubs and events that interest me are co-ed, but if there was a recurring women-only Minecraft party or something and there was never one for men, I'd be upset about that.
I was saying we could create the missing liberal spaces ourselves. ThePantser said we couldn't because we're being called out as sexist when we do that. The only example for that being "boy scouts" which I suppose means BSA, an organization with massive sexual abuse and bullying problems (according to Wikipedia). No idea how they are supposed to be "liberal".
Whether the girl scouts accept other genders or not has no relevance for that argument. And if it would be fair for them to do that is a completely different discussion because girls are hit by sexism in a completely different way than boys.
No, it doesn't.
And again you are completely ignoring any arguments about why these spaces might make sense.
Women get told they need there own spaces for mental health, women's issues, to have women's chat.
Men aren't allowed those things. They are told they never open up, they are toxic they shouldn't be acting x,y,z and they should be more like girls.
What you are saying is when all thr fallout occurs then they get help. You are fixing a problem when their could be a solution before it becomes a problem.
It would be great if there was mens clubs to just hang out, drink, talk, play games things like that. In fact there was and they were HUGE but men aren't allowed them now.
It would be great if boys could have that. Almost like a girls scouts but for boys.