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[–] [email protected] 7 points 11 months ago (3 children)

I'm yet to hear any reason FOR having children

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (4 children)

I'd imagine they can help with finding a reason to put up with working for a living. Also to fill out what we'd call life with ups and downs, book weeks and swimming lessons rather than the numb emptiness of a quiet house. Someone to channel love into and through. Someone who you can at least try to teach to be a net-positive to the world. Someone to mow the lawns. Someone to tell your old crap jokes to who is a clean slate and hasn't heard them before. Someone to invite over for Christmas once they've moved out and started their own lives.

This isn't a list of things everybody wouldn't have if they didn't have children by the way. But I imagine it'd apply to a lot of people.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 11 months ago

To help heal their trauma but to fail terribly as a parent and the kids end up with mental health issues due to neglect and abuse. Don’t have a kid because your life is shit. I plead with you.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

"the numb emptiness of a quiet house".

Dude, put some music on.

[–] [email protected] 4 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

I see where you're coming from and I'd generally agree. I think for me it's more that I don't want to bring a child into this world.

There's going to be a huge food, water and climate problem in the near future (I work in this space and know how companies and investors think). I don't think it would be fair to bring a child in this hot mess, but that's just me. Also a part of me does not have the patience to deal with a child and selfishly, I don't want to give my time to a child. I don't think I'll make the sacrifices necessary for the child.

Anyway, that's just me and thank you for listening to my rant 💁‍♂️

Also plenty of orphaned kids in the world in case I / future we decide we want a kid. I'd gladly adopt!

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago (1 children)

mow the lawns

This is probably the main reason.

I've convinced my parents now that it's good exercise so as they get older they should do it for health reasons. The argument worked so now when I'm at theirs I just stand there and watch.

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

We don’t all live on farms any more where kids are needed to help with the work. Although having been forced to work at the family business after school every day for zero pay was pretty shit.

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago

You have children because you want children.

If you don't want children, please don't have children. There are enough unwanted children in this world already.

[–] [email protected] 2 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) (1 children)

because children are adorable

[–] [email protected] 1 points 11 months ago

Got a source on that?