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My "why I don't think I'll have children" list is just growing longer every day
I had one just to see what it's like. I wasn't going back for a second.
I'm yet to hear any reason FOR having children
I'd imagine they can help with finding a reason to put up with working for a living. Also to fill out what we'd call life with ups and downs, book weeks and swimming lessons rather than the numb emptiness of a quiet house. Someone to channel love into and through. Someone who you can at least try to teach to be a net-positive to the world. Someone to mow the lawns. Someone to tell your old crap jokes to who is a clean slate and hasn't heard them before. Someone to invite over for Christmas once they've moved out and started their own lives.
This isn't a list of things everybody wouldn't have if they didn't have children by the way. But I imagine it'd apply to a lot of people.
To help heal their trauma but to fail terribly as a parent and the kids end up with mental health issues due to neglect and abuse. Don’t have a kid because your life is shit. I plead with you.
"the numb emptiness of a quiet house".
Dude, put some music on.
I see where you're coming from and I'd generally agree. I think for me it's more that I don't want to bring a child into this world.
There's going to be a huge food, water and climate problem in the near future (I work in this space and know how companies and investors think). I don't think it would be fair to bring a child in this hot mess, but that's just me. Also a part of me does not have the patience to deal with a child and selfishly, I don't want to give my time to a child. I don't think I'll make the sacrifices necessary for the child.
Anyway, that's just me and thank you for listening to my rant 💁♂️
Also plenty of orphaned kids in the world in case I / future we decide we want a kid. I'd gladly adopt!
This is probably the main reason.
I've convinced my parents now that it's good exercise so as they get older they should do it for health reasons. The argument worked so now when I'm at theirs I just stand there and watch.
We don’t all live on farms any more where kids are needed to help with the work. Although having been forced to work at the family business after school every day for zero pay was pretty shit.
You have children because you want children.
If you don't want children, please don't have children. There are enough unwanted children in this world already.
because children are adorable
Got a source on that?
Ya just need one:
Don't want any
"have one for mum, one for dad and one for the country".
Thanks uncle Tony
that wasn't Budgie smuggler Tones that was Poida Costello.
From memory he said that at a talk at an all girls school which is a bit fucked up if you think about it.
Very on brand for a senior Liberal politician.
Onion boy did say some fucked up things though. My favourite "people choose to be poor".
I remember Joe Hockey saying that poor people need to get better paying jobs.
Another fuckwit that had way too much power.