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fuck the manosphere (self.casualconversation)

submitted 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago) by kofe to c/casualconversation

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I just want to vent a bit - I started seeing someone a few weeks ago. Old fling that I ran into through some friends that got rekindled, and I was excited that it seemed like more than just casual hookups this time. But there were some yellow flags I ignored that turned out to be red flags, and now I'm feeling frustrated and hurt.

Dude for real dropped the line that men are more "capable" and "logical" on me. That gender studies are "indoctrination." I told him we should probably stop seeing each other if that's really what he thinks. It wouldn't be logical for me to keep seeing someone that thinks lesser of me, now, would it?

I'm grateful to have some guy friends that I turned to after I left, cuz I wanted to go into "fuck all men" mode, but I know it's not true or helpful. Just like there are women out there that have internalized misogyny, there's feminist men, enbies, etc. We're all just people and we're not monoliths beholden to differences in biology. This is just sexist, manosphere bullshit in particular

Anyway. I'm still feeling angry and wanted to put it out there for some support and solidarity. Anyone have a recent win they'd like to share or something?

ETA: Thank you so much for the conversation y'all! I've been trying to keep up but I gotta get some sleep. I'll check in later but hope everyone has a good day. Keep up the empowerment! 💜

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[–] kofe 24 points 11 months ago (1 children)

Yes, that's actually why I didn't reply to them. The first part of the comment comes across like they didn't read what I wrote directly after, and I'm not interested in repeating myself or getting defensive over having a brief reactionary response to emotional abuse. Thank you 💜

[–] [email protected] 3 points 11 months ago* (last edited 11 months ago)

Well I'm sorry it came across that way. I'm not trying to attack you or upset you at all, just hoping to give you a different perspective on why what you did was right. I repeat, what you did was right. I'm glad you have a solid support group irl now and I hope you keep it for life, but from experience that's not always the case for everyone, and there is also the unfortunate possibility you may have a bad experience with a partner again- which I hope you don't. But if you do find yourself in that situation, I'm hoping my previous comment helps you see you are better prepared to face such situation again in the future.