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Surprisingly, I've found the most fulfillment from raising and caring for my three-year-old daughter. I always feel immense pride when I'm tidying up the house and come abroad a pile of drawings or an arrangement not only of her toys, but whatever things she's found of mine (ie; the Peewee Herman action figure I keep beside my PC). But as fulfilling as it is, children are also inadvertently vampires and drain you of nearly everything you have. So I have to take pleasure in other things as well, like reading fiction, playing games with my wife, and spending time in nature. What I really need is a good mushroom trip through the forest, but it's been several years since I've been comfortable enough to step away from responsibility and parenthood to do something like that, even though it's a wonderful tool to bring one's self back to earth and get your brain firing again.
Highly recommend trying that if you're in the same mental cycle as OP. Definitely don't opt for children if your goal is fulfillment, though. You may gain something huge, but you're also signing off on the other side of your life. It's certainly not a good fit for everyone. You'd think this obvious advice, but a lot of people do just that and wind up miserable and resentful, and their kids in turn grow up with less love and respect than they could otherwise have.
My brother told me to have kids. He said raising his daughter was the best thing he's ever done. I don't disagree, she's awesome.
I don't find it surprising that being a parent is super rewarding if you do it well. I can't imagine being a parent who raises a shitstain who does something terrible and having to live with that.
Our oldest (7) entered public school last year and my expectations for other parents lowered to a point that I never thought possible. I was worried she wouldn't adjust well or would shut down, but nope the teachers gush to us about her constantly. I'm not patting myself on the back at all because it's 90% my daughter being awesome and somehow having high emotional intelligence at her age. How proud I am is leaking out.
Shit parents do create shit kids though. The saying is good parents often create good kids but bad parents almost always make bad kids. For example the douche parents at my kid's school created the kid that steals from the teacher constantly and is in the "trouble room" every day.
Sometimes good parents have terrible kids, too. Sociopaths are just born sometimes and not made.