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It’s not alternative facts, or accepting that anything someone is saying is True. But maybe trying to start from a place of “this is true for them and I wonder why that is, because it’s so far from what I know to be true.”
The separate knower might say “hydrochloroquine is not as good as science.” They’d be right and could absolutely leave it at that.
In my opinion though, the connected knower actually has a chance to change their stance through empathy and curiosity, recognizing the way that under education and economic strife has disillusioned this person from trusting science and being curious about whether or not a path exists for this person back to truth and science.
Makes me think of this wonderful man, Daryl Davis: https://www.npr.org/2017/08/20/544861933/how-one-man-convinced-200-ku-klux-klan-members-to-give-up-their-robes
Compassion is not the same as blind acceptance of what they’re saying or rejection of science and truth. It’s bringing in a human element and choosing connection and curiosity.
"True for them" is the wrong way to put it. "X is something they believe, even in the face of contrary evidence" is a better way.
I can tell you're a very separate knower.
And now in a human language, please.
In human language: You are completely and absolutely devoid of any degree of empathy or compassion and thus your own worst enemy when it comes to persuading others. You are far more likely to damage any cause you espouse than to promulgate it.
Human enough for you? If you'd rather have it in binary bits, let me know which ISA you are programmed in and I'll write the program that explains it to you.
Really? Leaving people to believe stupid, damaging, dangerous things just because you don't want to make a scene or don't want even the least hint of rudeness (probably because you learned that extreme politeness, even at your own expense, is a value) seems a lot less empathetic to me.
But you do you and follow "your own truth".
Are you defending leaving the people believe whatever they want, however wrong, damaging, wrongheaded, contrary to evidence or inane, just to avoid offending them? If not, what is your fucking point?!
I think you've missed the core point of this whole thread.
You're also conflating empathy with acquiescence.
Separate knowing is understanding someone's position logically or factually. Connected knowing requires an understanding of the context.
You can't reason someone out of an unreasonable position.
Hitting a flat earther with logic and facts will obviously be counter productive. Even a modicum of empathy and curiosity as to why someone thinks the way they do will serve you well.
Conversations are about much more than who is wrong and who is right.
But in that case, the battle is already lost. I cannot engage with the person in a manipulative emotional way to use their emotions to shock them out of their mistaken positions. Any further communication regarding the matter is useless. And glossing over some topics is being an accomplice, but apparently that's the only viable response.
Knowing why they believe ss they do will do nothing to help me show them their mistake.
Departing with people espousing damaging views for society, given that as you say reason is not a tool that works, is pointless.
It's only pointless if your sole objective is to demonstrate to everyone how right you are about everything.
Or if you don't want to be a silent accomplice of certain evils in society.
Would you have nice chats with a mass murderer about art?
Sorry you've lost me.
We usually lock up murderers to prevent them from harming others. That being the case, I guess you could chat to them about art if you were really interested in that.
That said, if you were trying to prevent future murders of course you'd need to try to understand the murderers perspective.
Indeed. This is because he lacks actual empathy so doesn't actually comprehend the very concept.
Yes. That's exactly what everybody here is saying.
I resubmit: you lack all capacity to comprehend any viewpoint other than yours and will only damage anything you believe in as a result.
That "slippery slope" is absolutely vital to slither down if you want to formulate public policy.
If you don't understand why people mistrust "big pharma" or "big government" or "big [sobriquet]" and reflexively dismiss anything that involves them, you cannot formulate public policy that will be effective.
Very rarely do people say "I'm going to dismiss centuries of scientific progress for this quack cure" without a reason. It's maybe not a reason you agree with. It's maybe not a reason reality agrees with. But you know what it might be? It might be a reason that traces back to how "big [sobriquet]" has acted toward such people in the past, often persistently over a long period of time, that has led to that breakdown in trust. In short: you (as in the beneficiaries of the status quo and "big [sobriquet]", directly or indirectly) may be at least partially historically culpable in the opposition you now face.
Now I get it: accepting that you yourself are partially culpable for "irrational" opposition is a bitter elixir to swallow, but if you don't take that first step toward understanding, you can't take the second step to correcting the problem. And the problem will continue to fester and take root until, oh, I don't know, something utterly fucking insane happens and a million of your fellow citizens die in a public health disaster because half your population doesn't trust the very institutions that were needed to prevent said disaster.
So maybe you should learn to enjoy sliding down slippery slopes. Or, you know, die in the next easily-preventable pandemic. Like a million of your fellow citizens (assuming you're American: insert your own numbers for your own country if not) did in the current one.
This! Seek first to understand.