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[–] bmsok 14 points 1 year ago (2 children)

What were the most difficult things about transitioning from being a 'homeschooled' kid to being a 'functioning member of society' for you?

[–] soloner 33 points 1 year ago (3 children)

I'm not the OP but was also homeschooled similarly. For me it was being culture shocked by how many different nuanced perspectives are out there. Growing up I was provided more of a black and white view and very little social interaction to teach me otherwise - until college haha.

It actually was a nice revelation realizing not everyone is so prejudiced and bigoted about everything. However, the damage was done and I still had to work a lot to undo it and "catch up" to how to normally interact. Now I'm well adjusted so it's all kinda in the past for me, but I won't do that to my kids.

Prob one of the other difficult things for me is being taught homophobia and having to learn how shitty that is and the guilt that I still live with to this day because of beliefs I used to hold. That sucks.

[–] [email protected] 18 points 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago)

If that can make you feel better, I wasn't homeschooled, and I still needed to adjust myself as an adult (and still do every day).

You are a product of your environment and you shouldn't feel ashamed sbout things you didn't know any better.

Be proud of the fact that you embraced the culture shock and opened to the world to become a better person.

That's a lot more than many people that had "normal" childhood (what is normal anyways?).

[–] [email protected] 7 points 1 year ago

Yeah. I still feel ten years behind

[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago

That's growth!! Well done.

[–] [email protected] 6 points 1 year ago (1 children)

For me, because my homeschooling was part and parcel with a very conservative religious upbringing, the most difficult part is, in a sense, still ongoing.

I don't want to imply my childhood was like Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt or something, I was aware of what was going on in the world and stuff, but certainly sheltered and heavily influenced by my parents in how interpreted what was going on.

Breaking away from that, interacting with society more directly and more diversely than I otherwise would have, has overlapped with breaking away from a lot of the cultural and religious beliefs that were instilled in me.

That's not an overnight process. I think anyone who has left behind a religious upbringing could relate to that, homeschooled or not, but the homeschooling and relative 'isolation' adds a twist to it.

[–] bmsok 1 points 1 year ago

Thanks, that's really well said. I'm happy you never had to live in the bunker!

Religious teachings are so strange in the sense that they can give you a strong moral compass but can just as easily give a sense of superiority that can lead to imposing your personal beliefs on others. It's definitely a really nuanced topic.