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how do I deal with being confrontational and defensive in the workplace (self.adhd)

submitted 1 year ago* (last edited 1 year ago) by yokonzo to c/adhd

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Long story short, Im 28, I work in a specific department in my factory called lighting, specifically I work in the truss department. Lately someone from a nearby but technically separate payroll has been "stealing me" to do drape (basically folding and putting away huge theater drapes) I'm getting annoyed because not only is this cutting into our current short timeline tasks, since I did okay the first time, now he specifically walks by all my colleagues and grabs me to do the drape. I've spent the last two days hiding in the bathroom whenever I get a chance to hide in case he wants my help, but I'm trying my best to avoid snapping and telling him to choose someone else, I'm not your drape guy! (This would be a bad idea)

So how about it, how do you all subdue your indignant rage over perceived injustices

Edit: I should preface some things: technically he's a building lead, so he can tell me what to do, I'm just more loyal to my department and would rather get our shit done

2: these are gruff factory dudes, just going "hey I'd rather not" is likely to get you laughed at

3: I'm not really looking for solutions to the problem, more my trouble controlling my emotions, I probably shouldn't have mentioned the example in the first place

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[–] yokonzo 8 points 1 year ago (1 children)

This sounds like a quite good way to go about it, though this guy is known for being actually kind of an asshole and is likely to be like"no you're doing this now" which is equally likely to set me off into beligerance, which I'm trying to do less now that I have an actual big boy career and not just fast food

[–] RedditWanderer 11 points 1 year ago

The trick is to be calm, and just say "i can't, sorry" and walk away. It might set him off but that's not your problem, and the loud one is likely to be the problematic one in the eye of the workplace ppls. You do what your manager says, he can take it up with him.