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What words, phrases or signs do you use and how do you get your partner's attention?

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[–] [email protected] 4 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I mean, anyone with a brain understands that when you’re using a language nobody else understands, that you’re talking shit about people in the room.

Doesn’t take a rocket scientist of even a bilingual to figure that out.

[–] 1bluepixel 3 points 1 year ago (2 children)

That's a really weird attitude. I come from a multicultural city where people speak their own language in public all the time and nobody presumes it has anything to do with them. Why would it?

[–] [email protected] 3 points 1 year ago (1 children)

If you’re in a social group, purposefully using a separate channel is interpreted as something the group wouldn’t approve of.

[–] RecursiveParadox 4 points 1 year ago

My American friend group is perfectly fine if my wife and I speak the occasional Dutch in front of them. They know we'd make fun of them to their faces if we felt like it.

[–] olafurp 1 points 1 year ago

Probably American. They don’t understand that cultures are different. Safe to ignore lol

[–] PlutoniumAcid 2 points 1 year ago (1 children)

You have low expectations. Sometimes we just want to keep embarrassing stuff on the low.

[–] [email protected] 0 points 1 year ago

I do that by not discussing it when I’m in a group.