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[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago (2 children)

I'd argue that sometimes the issue is what people think normal looks like. There's a lot of folk out there that think some really awful stuff is normal

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

I can understand your point. Normal, in this case or at least the way i meant, was;

Just dont overthink or "lay out the red carpet"

Most women just want a place where they are treated as any other. Not some fake "look how we cater to women" on the one hand, or a place where men simp like fuck at them.

Dont overcook the egg.

Just be normal.

[–] [email protected] 5 points 1 year ago

From my perspective the issue I see with a thread like this, given what you've mentioned, is either two scenarios:

  • Either the people here are not normal, in which case the answers aren't going to be helpful at all (even if said answers were expanded past "just be normal")

Or

  • The people here are normal, in which case that leads to... well just be normal (such as treating everyone with respect and kindness)

If that all makes sense, at least.

In terms of addressing the original question you proposed though, I think we should continue our efforts to push the bad folks away as much as we can, along with trying to get Lemmy to be a place that is appealing and inclusive to general audiences (rather than the niche side of the tech space). Which, isn't an exact answer, but in general I've already had a pretty big "internal" struggle of how I can help and contribute to Lemmy.