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Revealed: undercover UK police officer deceived woman into 19-year relationship
(www.theguardian.com)
this post was submitted on 06 Sep 2023
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Now that is commitment to the bit.
I'm not sure it was a bit.
He wasn't investigating her. If you are an undercover agent and meet someone new - off duty and unrelated to work - are you allowed to tell them your real name?
If not, if a single person is forced to choose between no intimate relationships and relationships only under a pseudonym, then the latter is the predictable choice.
I think the ethical choices are not what you laid out. In this case choose between relationship and job. People do it all the time.
Or choose both. You may consider that unethical, but that doesn't mean it was insincere. People do unethical things all the time with sincere motivations.
Sincerity is a poor defense of bad behavior.
I'm not necessarily defending it, I'm pointing out that his commitment to her was quite possibly sincere and not a "bit".
Lying and manipulation are not evidence of commitment to anyone but but his own selfish desires.
To argue the opposite is ingenuine at best.
Being in a relationship with someone for 10+ years and raising a child with that person is strong evidence of commitment. Lying about one's birth name is not enough to prove otherwise.
Noooonooonooo, He once did something... Let's say unwise, so naturally after 17 years it is all a pure lie! Some people really need to go out and touch grass. So disconnected form reality.