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So I am non-monogamous in that I have several sexual partners at any time, as does my wife (were also swingers), but she is absolutely "the one" and I absolutely believe in the concept of one person for life.
I do honestly believe in true love, a soul's counterpart in another, it just happens that my personal one is also kind of a slut, too. It's just another thing we have in common.
Looking at divorce rates as a bad thing is misleading, imo. A high divorce rate isn't necessarily bad. It's people escaping bad matches,. It's people learning and growing. It's people still chasing that special thing that makes them say "holy shit I've found them."
Worth noting that I think there are many great loves people can have, and I was deeply in love several times before I was with my wife. It isn't (and wouldn't have been for me) "settling" to marry one of those great loves. Your One is what you make of it.
I'm happy that I read this sentence in my lifetime
Oh absolutely. I don't mean to moralize or demonize the issue. I just mean that, seeing as how as soon as divorce became socially acceptable it shot up to 50%, I'm not sure how people can view it as unnatural, I guess.
Also your story is very sweet and every bit of what I want one day, so thank you for sharing. You have an interesting perspective
Where's the 50% divorce rate from? I've heard this over and over for decades, but nothing to prove it.
An oft-cited APA/census study found that 35-50% of first marriages end in divorce. That number goes up for subsequent marriages (~66%).
I think it's bad reasoning to suggest that a 50% divorce rate has any bearing on any given marriage, though. People marry and get divorced for a wide array of reasons.